I’m sure I ABU but I’m peed off and feel the need to vent.
I’ve been working for 30+ years, only two companies but various jobs which I’ve mainly really enjoyed but I’m at a stage in my life where I work to live rather than live to work.
Myself and two girlfriends only manage to get together 3 to 4 times a year and we had finally after a lot of diary checking got a date sorted which was tomorrow evening. I text today to find out what time to get a taxi booked for one of the group to cancel because they’ve put themselves forward to be on call as their colleague who was meant to do it has called in sick. I’m really annoyed as she’s ditched us for work and I understand that she’s doing a good thing but she had plans! If she’d been away for the weekend or visiting her DC at university she wouldn’t have cancelled and her employer would have to deal with it. My point is that most employers won’t really appreciate this kind of sacrifice. I will speak rationally with her about it when the new date is arranged and I’m not annoyed anymore and I know she’ll say she felt there was no choice, but there is.
YABU - chill, you’ll get another date arranged.
YANBU - I hate it when someone bails, she shouldn’t have cancelled the day before.