to think that there is no way this can be done?

[PyongyangKipperbang]

Friend of mine, seperated for 3 years. He isnt fussed about getting divorced, no lingering feelings just not high on priority list. Ex is with someone else and started making noises about divorce but expects my friend to pay for it. He cant afford to and told her that, they are not well off and have no assets to divide. She announced engagement recently. Now he has heard that they are planning a wedding in September.

Except he has not had any paperwork through, no more mention of divorce from the ex but a deposit has been put down on the wedding venue.

Now bearing in mind that he would not object at all to a divorce and she knows this, we cant work out what she is playing at! She has a tendency to ignore facts that she doesnt like and will steam on through assuming that the world is working how she expects it to. It was one of (many) reasons he left her. I knew them both pre-spilt although was closer friends to him than her through a shared hobby. And before anyone asks, yes we are just friends, I have no horse in this race other than supporting a mate.

Is there any way she could fraudulently divorce him by having paperwork sent to a different address and forging signatures? I frankly dont think that she is clever enough to do that even if it were possible. And again....why would she when she knows he would cheerfully agree and not create any problems. She would be the sort to blame him if her and new DP have to cancel their wedding, saying he obstructed the divorce while neglecting to mention that she had never filed.

So.....bigamy then?! I cant see, even if she files today, that a divorce would be through in time even with all sides agreeing due to the back log. Are we missing something?!

A divorce can be done online for less than 400 pounds. Just government forms and no solicitors. Is this an option?

www.gov.uk/apply-for-divorce

Oh and THE BRITISH MEDIA ARE ALL A BUNCH OF CUNTS

Just in case :)

@PyongyangKipperbang

Oh and THE BRITISH MEDIA ARE ALL A BUNCH OF CUNTS

Just in case :)

Well that's told them then hasn't it? Or don't you just think they'll blur this one out? 🙄

Either way, how does he know a deposit has been put down on a wedding venue for September?

I think there’s more to this story that you’re not being told. It doesn’t make sense that she would be planning another wedding while being adamant she was doing nothing about her divorce because it was his responsibility

Highly unlikely you have the full story here and if you do, why does it matter?

If she wants divorce she can apply, why does it matter to you (or him) that she's booked a wedding? She can "blame" him for having to cancel, but why would he care?

Excuse my ignorance but could you just say you were single and not need any paper to prove it? Yes bigamy.

Theoretically it is possible to make an application to the court ‘for deemed service’ of divorce where the other party has not acknowledged receipt of the petition, so a lack of response isn’t a barrier to divorce.

It is also possible to apply for the court fee to waive on grounds of income, so low income is not a barrier to making a divorce petition.

I agree there is more to this than meets the eye.

www.stephens-scown.co.uk/family/divorce-and-separation/deemed-service-spouse-wont-engage/#:~:text=An%20application%20to%20the%20Court,spouse%20to%20have%20been%20served.

www.gov.uk/government/publications/apply-for-help-with-court-and-tribunal-fees/how-to-apply-for-help-with-fees-ex160a

Of course it can be done fraudulently but it’s very rare.

It sounds like she wants to book her wedding for a specific date so went ahead and did it and is hoping the ex will sort and pay for a divorce which is why she’s not said/done anything.

If it gets to July and she’s not mentioned it then I’d wonder what’s happening but it’s ages away yet.

There really is nothing more to this.

He found out about the wedding as his ex has been telling people and some friends mentioned to him that they were surprised as they knew he wasnt divorced. Thats when it all came out that it is full steam ahead on a wedding that, as it stands, would be illegal.

He would quite happily get divorced just isnt in a position to pay for it at the moment so was happy to wait, and isnt bothered that she wants to remarry. It is more of a "WTF?" that she is doing this. He pondered that perhaps she had somehow done it fraudulently but I am not convinced, and again, why go to the trouble when she doesnt need to?

Its all a bit odd. Personally I can see it being cancelled, she has form for making big plans that fall through, its her partner I feel for if that does happen.