To say thank you?

[MarmiteCoriander]

A relative lives abroad and I organised a hamper and flowers to be delivered for a big birthday. AIBU to think she might have thanked me or told me it actually arrived? Even a brief 'thanks' on FB?

Did she definitely receive it? Yanbu.

I'd check they'd received it first. If it's a big birthday they maybe busier than usual too

Rude not to say thank you if it has been received by them. I would be messaging them to check they got it if not heard from them within a few days of the expected delivery date.

Was there any tracking information on the confirmation email you got when you placed the order?

If there isn't (or the tracking is showing it as delivered to a neighbour or left on a doorstep or still in transit or something) then it's possible they haven't received it.

If you know they've definitely received it, then yes, I think it's a bit rude for them not to say thank you - but I wouldn't necessarily expect them to do that immediately so it wouldn't occur to me until a week or so later that they hadn't acknowledged the gift.

If you have no idea whether it was actually delivered or not, I'd give a couple of days and then drop them a message to say 'Hi - I just wanted to check whether you received something from me on your birthday! I ordered something for you but the company hasn't confirmed if it's been delivered and I didn't want you to think I'd forgotten you!' or something like that.

If you know for certain that it was delivered and received by the intended recipient (tracked and shows it wasn't taken in by a neighbour etc) YANBU but if there is any chancethey haven't received it then YABU to ascribe a lack of response to malice rather than because they haven't received it yet.

I would maybe give them a few days and then send a message to say "Hi Auntie Susie, hope you had a lovely birthday! Just wanted to check to see if my gift arrived to you as I didn't get a delivery confirmation and I'm worried it wasn't delivered and you are thinking me rude for not sending a present."

If it's France it's 50/50 if it's arrived.

Call and ask them if your parcel arrived.

I sent my parents a hamper to Spain and it took a week longer than the expected delivery date.

I got a parcel once with no name of who the sender was. I had to phone the company to find out. maybe she's still investigating

Did it actually arrived? My sister is still waiting for her Christmas present in NZ?

Thanks everyone. For clarity, the flowers/hamper were ordered from a shop local to the recipient abroad- so not posted from the UK. No tracking unfortunately as just a small, local florist. It was nearly 2 weeks ago. I've messaged her to check IF it arrived!