After 58 happy years of marriage to my mum, my elderley dad died 14 months ago. We all help my mum with stuff, visit her, take her out & look after her. However, we can't be there 24/7 to keep her spirits up and replace my dad. She does not expect us to either, she wants us to live our own life too, just as we did before he died. She's started to get out a bit on her own accord now, meets a couple of widows, and has a lot to live for (ie her family who love & care for her)
She's still in relatively good health but as much as her spirits are momentarily lifted when she's not alone, she feels like she's just going through the motions. 14 months on she's getting down & wishes that they'd both gone together. He was her soul mate & 58 years is a long time. How do we help her get her zest for life back & find some happiness within again? She refuses to go for counselling