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To ask for advice re maintenance and stopping contact

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wontsomebodythinkofthechildren · 02/03/2022 23:07

I've just had to drive 20 miles to go and pick my 13 year old dd up from her dads as she sent me a video of her sitting in her room in the dark crying whilst he screamed and shouted like a man possessed in the background. He has previous form for this and he's a drunk. As an adult watching it was terrifying so I can only imagine how she felt being there.

When I got there I witnessed him push her around as she tried to leave, I got his girlfriend to open the door and got her out as quick as I could whilst also advising his much younger girlfriend to get out while she still could as he was screaming at her as well. She said she was fine though (as I did many times in the same situation when I was young and manipulated by him)

Dd quite rightly never wants to see him again and I don't want her to either. My concerns are how do I go about stopping contact legally and ensuring he continues to pay her maintenance. I'm a single parent, never remarried and I rely on her maintenance to provide for her. We made a private agreement when we separated so it was never legally binding. What do I need to do and what are my/her rights with regard to stopping contact and her maintenance?

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Thoosa · 04/03/2022 22:46

Well done her, and you. Enjoy your fresh start. Flowers

PiperPosey · 05/03/2022 02:51

@wontsomebodythinkofthechildren

I am so proud of you to take action to protect your DD.
You sound like a fantastic mother who has raised a brave daughter.
She knows that you fought for her...and Grandma sounds like a complete bitch. ugh..errrrrrrrrrgh...

New Chapter of your life. Well Done! Flowers

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