I had feelings for him 4 or 5 years ago and I was seeing him a little on and off but never a relationship as he didn't want. Stayed as friends after but kinda fell out and didn't speak for a while, life moved on and made amends and haven't spoken to him for 3 years.
Doesn't attract me in the slightest anymore and I now see that a relationship would have been pretty awful.
Anyway pretty sure I saw him yesterday in the street but wasn't 100% sure. Wondered how he's doing and what he's up to at the minute.
He lives very far away but knows people round here.
I've had a partner for 2 years now who I love very much and incredibly happy with. I don't even look at anyone else really, never dream of flirting with someone else and I despise cheats.
I feel worried that it would be disrespectful to my partner to text this old friend, I intend to be totally honest about sending the message and the past history with him.
If it is disrespectful or makes him uncomfortable then I won't. He did tell me once he had stayed in touch with someone he used to like a few years back (but I don't think they speak much anymore apart from bumping into each other here and there)