Anon Partner Bashing, Just For Fun!

[conjourbonjour]

Hello all! Just thought might be fun…maybe…

I’ve noticed since having our second child what a selfish a-hole my husband can be and wondered if anyone had any funny anecdotes to share about their partner’s selfish behaviour that makes their blood boil?

Mine likes to use the fact that he cooks (it’s the only chore he does around the house bar none) as an ace card to do whatever the f**k he likes for the rest of the time.

Or am I alone? 😂

War in my house this evening over how often he makes dinner. He thinks it absolves him from everything else. So for the next month, he's doing all the laundry instead.
Like all of it...
He has no idea...

I'm quite looking forward to it actually.

Rather want to kill mine as he said he was going to put the heating on, then "forgot"... now I'm freezing cold and huddled under cats to try warm up, had a long day and was looking forward to a warm bedroom!

This is exactly mines stance, and I’ve now realised he uses it as an excuse to hide in the kitchen in peace and quiet! Might try your approach…

Yeah mine does that too. Makes a huge fucking mess and then expects me to clean up after him. Usually lines are blurred because he's 'making dinner for everyone' but on Monday he cooked some kind of healthy, meal prep, concoction. Multiple pots and pans and utensils etc. I reckon he was expecting me to clean alllll that up after him too!! He can fuck right the fuck off. He was making that shit just for him so he can clean it up.

Pisses me right off that he thinks he can make a gigantic mess of the kitchen and it will just magically get cleaned up for him. I haven't touched it this time and he is pissed off. Yesterday he washed some of the dishes. I'm pretty sure he thinks if he leaves them there long enough I will do them. He is very, very wrong. I've had enough of him taking the piss out of me in this way.

Mine's been history for 25 years. I did a better job alone 😊

DP leaves her shoes, coats, books, post and anything else lying around in multiple random places.
She makes an incredible mess any time she cooks and also leaves random stuff discarded - eg; when making hello fresh meal she leaves all the little packets strewn around as well as all the pots and pans.
She stacks pots and pans in the sink and on the side even if the dishwasher has space.
She has trashed the garden - it's full of randomly discarded plants and pots and bags of compost etc.

I love her though - she's fab.

During lockdown mine started working from home and I had to close my business for 2 months. I used that time to do some extra training I'd never had time to do. Some of the courses were quite hard and intense (I did some children's mental health work and learned Makaton for example). As well as this I was supporting DD who developed severe anxiety and was depressed and looked after the house. I also volunteered phoning elderly ladies and worked with the scrubs project.

Because I wasn't working (and H was working from home) he thought it was reasonable for me to be responsible for everything and just left things where they dropped. I dutifully picked them up each day, took his car keys and popped them on the seat of his car. Rubbish, cups, dirty washing etc all there in a pile.

When he eventually wanted to use the car (we were getting food delivered) after about 3 weeks he was confronted by all this. He was furious and we had a stocking row but he stopped being a lazy shit after that 🤣

Laughing at "anon partner bashing". Is it any different from the regular partner bashing we get daily on here?

Can the partner be a wife/girlfriend or are we only allowed to bash dh and db as usual?

Oh I see @daimbarsatemydogsbone already did. That's better.

Mine likes to think his 4 on and 4 off shift pattern means he's utterly absolved of any responsibility to do any housework during the time he's off work. And obviously he can't do it when he's working. So I'll be running round like a lunatic trying to get the dishwasher done, the kids fed and onto the homework, the laundry done, this one and that one to this club and that club, the dog walked, house cleaned and he'll be sitting there fucking about on his Xbox or something. I snapped a few days back. Told him that he gets ONE day off out of his block of four and then I should get ONE day off and then we both pitch in for the rest. Otherwise it's 4 work, 4 leisure for him and constant full on slog for me. Unfair. You'd think I'd asked him to pull out his teeth with pliers, the way he looked at me. Just uncomprehending horror giving way to utter indignation.

It's going to happen or he's going to have to do absolutely everything for himself because I won't cook or wash for him if he's going to be a selfish arse.

@conjourbonjour

This is exactly mines stance, and I’ve now realised he uses it as an excuse to hide in the kitchen in peace and quiet! Might try your approach…

I don't think he realises laundry includes folding and putting away. And how much laundry our three youngish kids generate, complete with 3 sports kits each per week for the older 2. All the towels, all the bedclothes, including stripping and remaking the beds to get the bedclothes to wash in the first place. He hasnt put a duvet cover on in years. I'm so excited about the next month, and all the free time I'll have!!! 😂😂😂

My exH would take credit for everything in the house. He would put up a dozen tiles in the bathroom leaving me to finish the job, then take credit for it.
ditto, hanging a sheet of wallpaper, painting 1 door and leaving the rest, cooking dinner once a month (he claimed he always did it), paid for the decking, which I completed with more planks and some decorative fencing (it was his decking). He drove me mad. Apparently he is a perfectionist and because he could do a job perfectly, he had to stop, and then would criticise the finished (by me job)
Not lighthearted, more a rant!

Hah these replies are brilliant I didn’t expect anyone to comment!

@ComeOnSpringtime totally agree selfish partners are not limited by gender

We also have “meal prep” over here, making protein muffins and all sorts, looks like we’ve been robbed by Mary Berry when he’s done!!

@FalloutShelter I can imagine having the EXACT same convo if my hubby was a firefighter (making assumptions here!), I hear they get to play Xbox and games in the station to! Hahaha. They are huge children.

Bags bags bags, let’s sing a song about bags. We have bags of magazines, bags of tools, weekend bags at the ready, work bags half full. Bag too full, no problem, get another one on the go. Bags with envelopes, mail, receipts, water bottles, museli bars, notebooks, drawings.

Hiding everywhere. It drives me INSANE.

daimbars I think I might be your girlfriend