Need a rant!

[danco]

We currently have the sickness and diarrhoea bug in our house myself, dp, dd1 (6yo) and dd2 (10mo). I have been up all night seeing to the girls and being sick myself, so has dp (not seeing to the girls just being sick). He has woke up this morning and phoned in sick and gone straight back to bed, said he will just rest all day?! I'm sorry but?! Am I not Ill aswell? What I would give to lay in bed all day!
I've stripped all the beds, disinfected the carpets and on my 3rd wash load of the morning all whilst still being sick myself.
Why do men think the world stops when they're poorly🙄
Sorry just feeling sorry for myself and am obviously really jealous! AIBU being p*ssed off with him?

Have you actually said anything to him. Like “what about our children?” Have you actually done anything like put the 10month in with him?

You can postpone the cleaning until you’re better (I wouldn’t, I’d be the same as you, but you could argue that you could) so I can see if he thinks you both should be resting instead. But you need to 50/50 share the DC.

And as you dealt with them all night he really should tag in now.

God poor you. This is horrible. Sending you sympathy and strength. You shouldn't have to point out the obvious to your DH but needs must. "I am sick too, there's still shit to do and kids to look after and I can't and shouldn't have to do it all myself." Etc...

Have you spoken to him? Personally I'd do it in 2 hour blocks, one of you rests for 2 hours and the other one looks after the children. I'd just tell him that's the plan.

Yep two hour slots!

Why do the think the world stops? Because they are given the go ahead to get away with it.
My ex tried this shit once. I laughed at him, made it clear it wasn't happening, we are both parents and we pitch in equally, not just for the fun things but for everything. If I wanted to handle things alone he would be living elsewhere.

@danco

We currently have the sickness and diarrhoea bug in our house myself, dp, dd1 (6yo) and dd2 (10mo). I have been up all night seeing to the girls and being sick myself, so has dp (not seeing to the girls just being sick). He has woke up this morning and phoned in sick and gone straight back to bed, said he will just rest all day?! I'm sorry but?! Am I not Ill aswell? What I would give to lay in bed all day! I've stripped all the beds, disinfected the carpets and on my 3rd wash load of the morning all whilst still being sick myself. Why do men think the world stops when they're poorly🙄 Sorry just feeling sorry for myself and am obviously really jealous! AIBU being p*ssed off with him?

You should be telling him! No point in being a martyr or saying something afterwards!

You have to tell him straight! Each of you gets equal chance to rest - both in the day time and night - until both are recovered.

He can’t call in sick and just rear whilst you carry on with the same illness.

Don’t be jealous - make sure he knows what’s going to be happening!

Why have you let him? Why did you not get him to strip some of the beds etc?

Presumably you haven't let him stay in bed all day.