to think DH should be around & not out on the razz when his DS visits

[annoyedwife]

His DS lives in Cork Ireland & only visists twice a year, he is 14 (from his first marriage). DH has gone out with his mates to the pub while leaving me to entertain his 14 yo, and our 7 yo & 4yo.
Needless to say his DS is bored shitless stuck in with 2 young DC's. Any advice on how to entertain a 14 yo? please.

Just phoned DH told him to get his ass back here ASAP & he just hung up .

Unless it is some special night out that he "has" to go on - work related networking thing, or a special birthday, then I agree - he should be doing stuff with his DS.

Oh dear, your poor dss. What is he in to? Not impressed with his dad, sorry. Why is he avoiding him?

What a twunt!
What else can one say?!

OMG!

My Step-daughter lives in Dublin, and only comes over once or twice a year too.

DH wouldnt DREAM of going out for a drink while she was here!

YANBU...definatley not...as for entertaining a 14yo....can you give him a couple of £ to go to the shop for some magazines?...do you have a games console he could play on? or do you have sky tv you can give him the remote to?....thats all my sisters used to do at that age!!

The poor boy, having to travel all that way to be ignored. Bet he could have sat in his room at home for less.

Did your dh know he was coming over? How long is he going to be there? Does dh have a regular night out for a drink, or did he just head out tonight?

Why on earth does your DH think it's your job to entertain his son?

What does he think the point of contact is? Why does he bother to have his DS to stay if he's not going to spend time with him? Is it just so that he can say he's a good father, without actually bothering to do any of the hard work of parenting, seeing as he's got you to do it for him?

It makes me so mad when I hear tales like this, of men dumping their children on their wives, girlfriends and mothers, when the point of contact is for their children to maintain the relationship with them. Lazy bastards.

You are not being unreasonable. Your DH is behaving like a twat. Make sure all his family (ie your MIL) knows what he did.

What a horrible thing to do his poor ds, who must be feeling like seven kinds of shit because his own dad can't be arsed to see him Stuff like this has an incredibly damaging effect on kids, trust me. Your dh probably thinks "it's only one night, what's all the fuss" but this is an appalling way to treat a child. I bet his mother will be furious when she finds out.

And what a crap way to treat you, as well. Can you take them all out for pizza or similar? On dh's credit card, natch.

Please show him this thread so that he understands what a shitty, shitty, shitty thing he is doing to his DS.

As others have said your DH is a complete knob. Re entertaining a 14 year old, get off the PC and let hime use it , or give him the TV remote, order a takeaway - probably pizza and/or chips

What the bloody hell is he doing going to the pub at 4.30 anyway when you've got kids? Do you ever just go to the pub with your mates with no prior arrangement?