I am so upset. My 9yo DD has post-Covid syndrome. The doctor said she still has inflammation in her stomach. She is often suffering with stomach ache and nausea, as well as tiredness and muscle aches. She has had quite a lot of time off school due to this, which upsets her as she likes school.
So, this morning she was in pain but wanted to give school a try. By the time we arrived she was crying. One of the pastoral care teachers came up and I explained. She asked DD if she would like her to take her in and see how she went and if necessary they would phone me. I agreed that with DD. About 11.30 the office phoned me to say her stomach was hurting her. The lady asked whether she should suggest she tried to stay another 30 min. I said please can you ask my DD if she wants to try another 30 min or if she wants me to come and get her now. She phoned the class and then told the member of office staff told me she would try for another 30 min. After 30 min I rang back and was told she had been crying but had now perked up a bit.
When my DD came home she was really upset and clinging to me. Apparently her class teacher had her ready to come home but the message given to her that she passed onto DD was that 'Mum said you need to try to stay at school a bit longer'. Obviously, that went against what we had agreed and DD was completely bewildered and started crying. She was still in a lot of pain but didn't say anything else as she didn't think there was any point. So she stopped crying and the teacher thought she had 'perked up'.
Not only was thinking s bad enough but due to circumstances my DD is very sensitive to being 'abandoned'. This was why she appeared to 'perk up' as she just pushed it all down to cope emotionally.
What is worse is a comment was made by a TA insinuating that she was making it up, perhaps as a response to them thinking I refused to pick her up. But I find it so disheartening. DD loves school - she's not making this up!
Now, her teacher and pastoral care know all about the post-covid syndrome and all the background. Obviously, the receptionist does not and I think she got involved inappropriately. She should have followed mine and the teachers instructions. Also TA probably doesn't know so also shouldn't have got involved.
I'm now feeling really uncomfortable about letting her back to school and she's feeling if she is in a lot of pain noone will believe her/I won't pick her up. So now she is less likely to want to try if she is in pain in the morning.
When I emailed the school about the situation I did ask if the school nurse could help. I'd like a proper plan of how to deal with this. For example is there somewhere she can lie down quietly if her stomach is hurting or she is feeling sick. I didn't get any response to this.
So what would be best? Try and contact the school nurse myself? Speak to someone at school? Sorry this is so long and thank you for reading!