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AIBU?

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Manager cancelled my holiday last minute

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whatisforteamum · 28/02/2022 11:14

So where I work we've seen colleagues leave and not be replaced.
One was almost a year ago the others November and last month. We are on our knees working 12 hr days which we always did but considerably increased workload.
I booked this week off 10 months ago as it is a big anniversary.
My boss has all holidays on the computer and on a planner.
Also other people have holidays backlogged so effectively working 4 short if you know what I mean.
I offered to pop in if strictly needed mid week.
The Rota was done last night which would start on a Sunday...yesterday.
I only had 3 days off of the whole 7 and No weekend that I only get 5 a year!!
I said I'm having 4 at least as my kitchen is ripped out for us to redo.
My boss knows my dh was made redundant last week too so is massively taking advantage.
My colleague who is single with no commitment thinks we have to just rearrange our hols.
I am massively pissed off and stressed and will apply elsewhere today.
Am I being unreasonable to have expected advanced warning or at least a team meeting.
Obviously I'm going to apply elsewhere

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Ladybyrd · 28/02/2022 17:50

I would stick to my guns and not go in. I do think your single friends are just as entitled to take their holidays without being messed around too though, and your attitude towards them stinks to be honest.

Movingsoon21 · 28/02/2022 17:55

My boss at my old work tried to do this. I just emailed and said “sorry, I have that week booked off and have bookings that can’t be rearranged, so won’t be able to come in. Kind regards, moving.”

I also knew I was leaving so no longer cared by that point!

cecilthehungryspider · 28/02/2022 17:57

OP are you in a union?

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whatisforteamum · 28/02/2022 18:19

No union and No my attitude doesn't stink they have zero plans for their time off and were only taking it as they would lose it.
It is up to them to fight their own corner on whether this is acceptable to them as we are in different circumstances and different job roles.

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User1011 · 28/02/2022 19:19

Don’t worry what other people think, look after yourself.

Ladybyrd · 28/02/2022 19:32

@whatisforteamum So you think it's acceptable for single colleagues to lose their holiday entitlement, on the basis that they don't have lives outside of work, effectively working for free, while bemoaning having your holiday cancelled at short notice?

I would look for a new job regardless.

balalake · 28/02/2022 19:36

I hope you are successful in applying for another job and it is one where you are treated better.

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whatisforteamum · 28/02/2022 19:37

The holiday won't be lost just deferred in this instance ladybird.
To some unknown point in the future.

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PossiblyDreaming · 28/02/2022 19:43

If you’re planning on leaving it will be lost. If you’re enough of a pushover to offer to work in the middle of your book annual leave and then not even have the confidence to stand up for yourself when your boss breaks the law to cancel it at the last minute, he’s hardly going to pay you for the post time when you leave.

This probably sounds a bit like I’m victim blaming but you’ve been given good advice here, you’ve stated you’re planning on leaving anyway but you’d rather phone in sick than deal with (soon to be ex) colleagues getting huffy that you’re taking the leave your legally entitled to. I would imagine that, unless they’re as brainwashed as you into thinking nothing is the fault of management, they’re pissed off at your boss and the general working conditions than you specifically.

Ladybyrd · 28/02/2022 19:45

@whatisforteamum I apologise.

I worked at a business that put in place a strategy to squeeze support until the pips squeaked. Not through necessity, but greed. Do yourself a favour, and leave. Any business where it's a fist fight just to get your holiday entitlement is never going to have a good working culture, and perhaps they really are on their uppers.

I would take my holiday with a clear conscience saying it's too late now to cancel unless they want to pay your builder's bill.

And I'm sorry for jumping to the wrong conclusion.

LIZS · 28/02/2022 20:02

Noone is indispensable, they will cope without you for a few days. Don't let them guilt you into giving up your booked leave, or even a few hours of it.

GreenClock · 28/02/2022 20:12

I agree with the majority. They have not given you enough notice. Take the leave and seek legal advice from ACAS if they make a fuss.

Good luck with the job hunt.

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whatisforteamum · 01/03/2022 07:05

Thank you all.That is ok ladybyrd.
I feel this situation is a combination of dreadful planning and sheer hope the team can keep taking the workload.
Demoralizing for everyone and not sustainable. More expectations and No pay increase.
Communication could have easily prevented this stress.

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Brefugee · 01/03/2022 08:57

No union and No my attitude doesn't stink they have zero plans for their time off and were only taking it as they would lose it.
It is up to them to fight their own corner on whether this is acceptable to them as we are in different circumstances and different job roles.

Together you are stronger. There is no reason why anyone should be messed around for holidays. If you stuck together they might help you a bit more. But you do you, i can't get upset for someone with a selfish attitude like that, tbh.

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