Friends comments - over sensitive?

[MrsCremuel]

I met up with a friend yesterday. We both have young babies, her first not mine.

There were lots of odd sort of negative comments which seemed odd and needless to me about this and that, for example that my child’s clothes were odd - the pattern and material etc. They were a bog standard set from M&S. She often makes the odd negative comment like this about me too - the way I speak or dress ie. why use x word when x word is more usual, why are you wearing a top like that etc.

I think she is a bit of an odd bod but I’m nothing but supportive of her and kind so I’m a bit miffed now. Am I being over sensitive?

No that's odd OP

I should add she said nice things about DD too to be fair

She’s either insecure and trying to find ways to feel superior, or she’s just nasty and making mean digs. It’s not you, either way, it’s her. Life’s too short to spend it with people who don’t make you feel good.

If she is like this with other women then that is her nature. However if she is targeting only you then unless you are thick skinned you may wish to reevaluate the friendship.

Not a friend.
I'd call her out on it directly. She sounds like a bully.

I’ll have a think about how she is with others, suspect she does it with mutual friends too but feel like it is worse with me.

Such little things but over the years it has worn we down a bit.

Not odd.

Rude, nasty bully.

Step away from her.

She is not a friend.

If you feel the worse for seeing someone, stop seeing them.

It really is that simple.

Rude not odd, call her put on this kind of thing, she doesn’t sound like much of a friend.

I would send her the following text: Blowing out someone else's candle doesn't make yours shine brighter.

Then block her and have nothing to do with her. She is not a friend she is a nasty bully.

Oh god, save yourself the pain, fuck her off!

No one needs that kind of negativity!

Ditch! Who cares how she is with other people, she is horrible to you. If she has issues - not your problem.

I wish someone had given me this advice years ago - It would
have saved a whole world of pain!

@KindlyKanga

I would send her the following text: Blowing out someone else's candle doesn't make yours shine brighter.

Then block her and have nothing to do with her. She is not a friend she is a nasty bully.

Please don't do this. If you are going to raise the issue with her do it openly not send passive aggressive messages she probably won't even understand.

Personally, I would just back away from her. Don't initiate any contact and reply to her really briefly if she contacts you .

I had a work colleague like this... She seemed to take a bit of a shine to me, so glomped onto me a far bit. Never said anything rude about me, but was constantly rude about our employer and other staff (things I didn't agree with).

She was eventually let go after posting something she shouldn't have done publicly on social media (she was basically a temp). She tried to engage with me on social media, but I kept my responses very short, and she eventually lost interest.

You've put up with it for years and as you state it has 'worn you down'.

Time to minimise effort in messages and make excuses when it comes to meeting up.

She can find other people to treat in such a way. And you can find new friends who treat you nicely :)