I've been mulling over it for months and a sleepless night last night made me want to ask for advice. I am not close any more with mother and brother (who live together) and saw my mother yesterday after two years which brought loads of frustration bubbling up which I tried not to show. My brother has been very ill recently - self inflicted - but is back home with serious lifestyle changes to be made so have been worried about my elderly mother and wanted to see what I could do to help. My brother seems to actively dislike me and judges my 'life choices' so does not interact with me at all which is putting a strain on my relationship with my mother as she always defends him and never stands up to him which pissed me off. I don't feel welcome going to visit them so don't- they only live a 10 minute drive away so it's stupid! They never call me or try to stay in touch so I'm thinking now - fuck it - I won't pick up the phone again. I also feel there is something wrong with me as I can't force myself to care about my brother. I truly don't care if he is here or not which must indicate I'm deficient in some way. Has anyone had family members they have reached a point of no return with?