DH leaves lights/appliances ON !! Wtf !

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It’s become a huge PITA with the energy prices, etc. He goes into the kitchen, lights are left on. Uses the toilet, leaves the light (and exhaust fan) on. DS woke up saying legs hurt, I’ve been to the study to find calpol, guess what he left the iron on! The iron has been on for nearly 12 hours!
Wtf ! Divorcing for this reason seems a bit unreasonable, but I’ll consider if you all insist.

He always had huge manchild problems, although wayyyy better now. My patience with this kind of shit is wearing thin. Getting on my nerves !

Re the iron, isn't that a fire risk?

It FUCKKNG IS a fire risk. I lost my shit with him several times about it. I don’t know how people can just iron stuff and walk away. It gives me so much stress.

Yes divorce! I have one the sane with the iron and some lights.

The iron?!

The lights DH is awful with. We sit in the living room and he leaves the hall light, kitchen diner light, living room and WC lights on. I then turn everything off and he says 'we can't sit in the dark'. The TV is backlit and we are also watching the lit up screen.

I actually said "I'm not running an electricity pylon" and sounded like my late mum for a second.

As long as the lights are LED they won’t be costing much. Heat generated through electricity is what is expensive, so old light bulbs, kettles, ovens etc. Leaving the iron on is irresponsible.

@NewPapaGuinea

As long as the lights are LED they won’t be costing much. Heat generated through electricity is what is expensive, so old light bulbs, kettles, ovens etc. Leaving the iron on is irresponsible.

Agree with this. Don't sweat over the lights but the iron is a worry. Do you have smoke alarms?

It irritates me when DH moans about me leaving a light on for five minutes as if it makes any difference to our lives. The iron on though, I would be mad about that.

DP is a bugger for this, he’ll have every light in the house on – lamps and big lights, and all his 8 million computers, and the heating, then want to open a window for air (which I’m all for but not when the heating is blasting).

But I did think modern lights didn’t use much energy? It annoys me anyway, not sure why.

Though @Birthdayblunder afraid I’m with your DH – perfectly reasonable to have the light on in a room you’re actually in and using! I hate watching TV with all the lamps off.

My iron turns itself off, but I wouldn’t leave it plugged in after use. I must admit, I’m not good at turning lights off. My adult DS goes round turning lights off. Most nights all house lights are on. I have got a couple of battery operated candles, so have one in hallway upstairs and downstairs, then we won’t need lights on there. My FIL was terrible with anything, you’d go to the toilet come back in lounge, tv and lights were off, heating constantly being lowered. I say to my son that he’s taking after his grandad.

My dh does the same thing

Except he’s the one that moans about me putting lights on when he thinks I don’t need it.

He also lights candles in the living room and then fucks off to the garage.

We’ve had many an argument about that. I come in and blow them out, he relights them and then argues they were fine. As soon as he leaves them alone again, I blow them out. Rinse and repeat

The iron should have an automatic cut out if left standing for too long.
I've turned into my dad, constantly turning lights off etc. Bit my kids are like your dh - I wake up to find tv still on, every light on, back door unlocked. It's really bloody annoying

DP is a bugger for this, he’ll have every light in the house on – lamps and big lights, and all his 8 million computers, and the heating, then want to open a window for air (which I’m all for but not when the heating is blasting)

Is he made of money and doesn't give a shit about the environment and wasteful behaviour. Some computers can cost quite a lot to run if they're on for a long time.

OP YANBU. Perhaps he's been under a rock for the last few months and is oblivious to the huge increase in energy prices? Around a year or so ago, the average household utility bill was around £80/90 pm. Come April it will be close to £200 pm, and a lot more for many and they were reporting yesterday that come October it could top £250 per month.

Even if you can afford it, surely that should focus your mind a little and think more about what you're using? Plus environmental concerns, and the fire risk of leaving the iron on unattended. I would sit down and have a serious conversation about this. It's not acceptable behaviour.

The iron should have an automatic cut out if left standing for too long

Do they though? Are irons clever enough to know that they're not being used? Won't they just maintain the heat setting for as long as they're switched on?

Hmmm my DH tends to leave all lights on and no matter how many times I "tell him off" it just doesn't go in 🤪. However the iron ... that's a fire risk

My other half leaves hot taps running and walks away…

The iron is a huge problem. It shouldn't be left on and unattended. What if DS had burned themselves. Or the cat if you have one had knocked it over.

My 12 year old has form for this. That and leaving the bloody toilet seat up 🤬🤬🤬 but DH - no. No suggestions but will be following with interest for suggestions for DS.

I have found our iron being left on a few times At first I was quite angry but have realized that it is designed to deal with this and cuts off the heat after a while - you can tell it is doing this as the light flashes.

My DH is terrible for this. Will leave everything on, door open to outside whilst our heating is on.
I literally follow him round turning everything off, the thing is, I DONT WANT TO BE HIS MOTHER!!!
I swear they force us have that nagging mothering role. It drives me nuts.

and don't get me started on the toilet seat, spillages, kids uniforms, folding washing....

My PIL are the worst people I know for this, although it doesn’t affect me directly. When it gets dark they turn every lamp in the house on and they stay on until they go to bed, even if they go out for the evening.

I've come to the conclusion that you can't make another adult get into this mindset unless they want to. Since we moved in together, it's been a running joke that Harry Potter lives with us because the cupboard light is always on if my DP has been anywhere near it. Now she's concerned about energy prices - but she still leaves lights on.

Though, actually having read this thread about DHs leaving hot taps and irons running, I'm feeling quite relieved. It could be worse!

I think my iron dies cut out if it isn't moved for a while. I don't actually know though because I've never left my iron unattended (I have nosy and stupid cats).

I didn’t realise we both married the same man!

I've just looked on AO.com and they sell 46 different irons and 24 are listed as having a safety cut off, so it's not a universal feature. Ours probably doesn't have it, as it's about 20 years old and not particularly complicated.

We used to argue about leaving lights and things on a lot. It's so wasteful and so simple to turn them off when not using.

We swapped the light switches over to smart switches, and added smart sockets to the key sockets.

Now I can turn off TVs lights and sockets from my phone. Bliss.

https://wifi-smart-home.co.uk