Why do people go quiet on you and take a distance, rather than just discussing what's up !

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I'm really sick of people doing this. It's so annoying.

If it's someone distant to you, fine. But close friends and family members doing this and then leaving you guessing what you did wrong - what's up with that ?

Initially I would assume that the person is busy. But after repeated attempts and frosty replies, one must assume one has done something wrong ?

Should one always ask ? I'm sick of this kind of thing.

I once had a friend who would fly of the handle and treat me great one day and the next she would be cold and distant.

Never knew where I stood so I would automatically go quiet for my own self protection.

In my case in tbe past when I have tried to rise issues peoe have got really defence and used the way of ' attack as the best form of defence' and I've ended up being ripped to shreds without getti g my point across.
I've learned a couple of things. Those thRvshout the loudestvhet their own way. Those that dont like being challenged will turn everything round and attack you. More often than not it's easier to roll your eyes and think this to will pass.

How many people are doing this to you?

I do this. I’m an introvert and quite honestly, just don’t know where to start the conversation sometimes. I need to resolve things myself without the other person. I don’t do it to hurt them; I just need “time out” to reconcile my thoughts. The issue will never be “resolved” but I get over it by pulling back, until I’m ready to move “back in”.

I do know people who do this to be cruel, and I agree it’s horrible. From my point of view it’s not a choice; it’s my natural reaction and I do it for my own well-being.