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...to be totally fed up

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Louisethemum · 25/02/2022 14:39

I wonder how many are in the same boat as me.

Last year my youngest started school. I had been working part time over many years whilst my children were young. I used to work at quite a high level but over the years whilst having my children my responsibilities dwindled away to be mainly very basic and mundane.

Since my youngest went to school I've increased my hours and will shortly be full time again, but I do not work for very good employers as the company was overtaken a few years ago and it is quite stressful. I don't have any skills or confidence to get another job. I've been in this one the majority of my working life.

Without sounding like I've got my violin out, for various reasons that I won't explain, I am incredibly depressed at the moment and I think it ties in with my children both being at school now. I gave up most things to be a mum, some of which were my choice, some which weren't, but I now find Myself here and it feels like everything's over. I don't have any family I am close to, no friends, no career etc. we would love to move home and I know that would help busy my mind but every offer we put in is rejected in this crazy market and we're getting no where.

I don't think I'm asking for advice as everything one could suggest I would have a reason why it's not possible - I am generally quite pro active! But I just wondered if any others find themselves here? I'm very lonely and before anyone suggests trying to make friends etc, I have, numerous times, I just don't think it's meant to be for me.

I absolutely know there are AWFUL things going on in the world at the moment and that is a reason why I am so frustrated at myself, but I just can't help but feel this way.

Please be kind x

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bloodywhitecat · 25/02/2022 14:46

It isn't over, you are just at a fork in the road and I think lots of people experience it when they have a major life change which you are undoubtedly going through. I would like to say something sage and wise but my brain is fried at the moment, I just wanted you to know you are not alone and how you feel is valid and real but things can get better. Slowly but surely, life improves although it is sometime one step forward and three back.

Louisethemum · 25/02/2022 14:49

@bloodywhitecat

Thank you for replying x

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JanisMoplin · 25/02/2022 14:55

I know exactly how you feel. Though with me it's partly due to menopause and therefore feeling completely useless . I don't know if this will work for you, but volunteering has helped me a lot. I have found a new interest, made some friends, and helped me get out of the house ( as my day job is wfh). Also, the volunteering community tends to be very nice. A welcome change from often grumpy DC and co-workers.

Louisethemum · 25/02/2022 15:47

@JanisMoplin thank you. I am entering the peri menopausal bracket so perhaps that's adding a to it x

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