To ditch my friends?

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Mozzie123 · 25/02/2022 03:18

Perhaps a self pitying thread here but..

Currently on a ttc journey with little success so far. My friendship group of many years all have kids, and several now pregnant with their second (of course all were successful ‘first go’). Whilst they are all lovely and supportive all they talk about these days are kids, babies, and baby related issues. Me being the only childless one just has to sit there and grin and nod through it all. To be included I get asked about my dog (appreciate the gesture but makes me feel even more like a loser).
For the sake of my own mental health I just feel like distancing myself from them for a little while, but at the same time feel like I’d be an immature jackass doing so.

Any words of advice to get over myself?

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thingymaboob · 25/02/2022 03:33

It's frustrating now but when you do get pregnant and have a baby, your friends will be experienced parents and you'll be thankful you stuck around.
Baby related conversations are dull though but inevitable if you meet in a group, maybe meet one on one?

WhatNoRaisins · 25/02/2022 03:35

Depending on what the odds are for you it might be worth sticking it out. Remember anyone is allowed to branch out and seek new friendships at any time.

Saltyquiche · 25/02/2022 03:43

Go pay privately for basic fertility tests if you can’t get them done through your gp . At least get a day 21 progesterone test, a high proportion of infertility is resolved through clomid tablets taken early on in a cycle.

Can you see your friends less often, you can always be honest if asked and say you find it a bit upsetting. Make some new friends.

Bogeyes · 25/02/2022 03:43

I would reduce contact if it is making you uncomfortable.

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Mozzie123 · 25/02/2022 07:39

@WhatNoRaisins

Depending on what the odds are for you it might be worth sticking it out. Remember anyone is allowed to branch out and seek new friendships at any time.

I guess our odds are ok- we are only about 7 months in (compared to others I know this is nothing) however we had a miscarriage late last year, which has made it extra difficult.

I do like the idea of doing more one on one catch ups and have been a better experience.

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