To cancel sleepover due to Covid

[IsolaPribby]

My daughter was due to have a sleepover with a friend today. On Tuesday her brother tested positive. He is staying in his room. The friend's Mum was still happy for sleepover to go ahead, as the friend has had Covid within the last month.
I began to get cold symptoms. Yesterday was negative, today positive. I know that technically I don't need to isolate any more, but that just doesn't seem right.
DD is still negative, but has some cold symptoms. It's disappointing, but am I being unreasonable to cancel the sleepover?

I think to be honest it all comes down to personal preference and what you are comfortable.

YANBU, you're hosting so it's up to you. Personally, I wouldn't want to host someone or go to their house even with a bad cold, purely because I'd rather postpone and avoid catching/spreading it. We also have kids at nursery so any time spent not having a minor illness is a godsend!

Tbh, you've got Covid in both your households so it doesn't make much difference either way. It's up to the individuals.

Do whatever you're comfortable with.

Are people really still making family members stay in their rooms. Its obviously pointless as you have discovered.

If the kid already had covid recently (so the same variant), then I'm not sure why you wouldn't. If you're too ill to host then cancel, but that doesn't seem to be the reason why you wouldn't host. What are your reasons for not hosting?

I think you should. Several hours in the same room could spread the virus.

I would cancel, especially if the other mom is quite relaxed because she's much more likely to spread it around if you pass the virus on

I’d cancel it tbh

I’d cancel if I felt ill… not because it’s Covid. Almost certain that all the kids have had it or on their second round

I'd cancel. I know people who have tested positive twice within a short space of time.
Also, you might start feeling shit and you don't want another child to be responsible for.

@Rewritethestars1

Are people really still making family members stay in their rooms. Its obviously pointless as you have discovered.

This is entirely my son's choice. He is almost 23, but has Aspergers, and is a stickler for the rules.

Do what suits you? Why do you not have to isolate?

I’d ask the friends mum what she’s comfortable with again explaining that you’re postive

@TonksInPurple

Do what suits you? Why do you not have to isolate?

www.bbc.co.uk/news/explainers-52530518

I wouldn't cancel unless I felt too ill to be the responsible adult. But I'm not fussed about Covid.

@TeaForTiger

Tbh, you've got Covid in both your households so it doesn't make much difference either way. It's up to the individuals.

Do whatever you're comfortable with.

I think it’s OP’s son who has covid, not the friend’s brother. So I don’t think it’s in both households?

I probably wouldn’t cancel if the other mum was happy - and I can see why she would be if her daughter had covid a few weeks ago. But I also wouldn’t want to host a sleepover if I was feeling rough, so might cancel more for that than covid itself.

The whole point of isolation no longer being required is that no one cares if it spreads any more and the focus is on targeted protection for the vulnerable rather than widespread restriction of young and healthy vaccinated people.

If it's just your child & a friend having the sleepover and both households already have someone with Covid plus the visiting child had it last month who exactly are you trying to prevent catching it by cancelling?

Is someone clinically extremely vulnerable?

I'd be open with all attendees about the situation and people can choose whether to come based on their own attitude to risk.

I'm just baffled as to why anyone under 70/not CEV is still testing

@TonksInPurple

Do what suits you? Why do you not have to isolate?

Because as of today it is no longer required, in England anyway.

I wouldn't have a sleepover if anybody in the house was ill in bed not just covid so if it was Me I would postpone it till the I'll person is better.

The law maybe changed but the guidance hasn't as far as I know? We're still supposed to act responsibly to stop spread. So no I wouldn't be having visitors to the house.

No I wouldn't be having visitors to the house either. It's not the end of the world if a sleepover doesn't happen.

Here's the guidance - if you're positive, stay at home and avoid contact with others.

If you’ve got symptoms,’presumably you’re not feeling well? That would be a good reason to cancel anyway, in my view

Thank you all, I have cancelled.

I just wanted to check that I doing the right thing, as the world seems mad at the moment!

I think you did the right thing cancelling. The other child may have had it recently but DD's teacher got it again very quickly after having it, and was really really unwell the second time, so you just never know.