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To wonder about people who watch EVERY story but never like pictures

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Opal93 · 23/02/2022 20:38

And I KNOW it’s just social media it’s not real life and we aren’t supposed to care, but it’s something I’ve noticed and heard other people say about it too and just genuinely curious. Has anyone else experienced people who watch all your stories, never miss a single one, but yet never like your pictures? I’m not saying I care about like posts or anything but I do wonder why people follow me at all/ view stories if they are not interested in my stuff. I know a few people who have pages of their small businesses say the same thing. Am I BU to wonder what that’s about?

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FiftyStoriesHigh · 23/02/2022 20:51

Mine roll one into the other so I’m not choosing at all

User76745333 · 23/02/2022 20:55

I had no idea that people could see you’ve viewed their stories. That’s really crap.

User76745333 · 23/02/2022 20:55

I shall no longer be viewing any stories that’s for dure

Windbeneathmybingowings · 23/02/2022 21:01

Oh yeah. I’ve got a hardcore few exes who watch everything and never say a word. Then the lovely ones who are really supportive and send hearts to everything, they are my faves.

Lottle · 23/02/2022 21:04

I don't think everyone knows you will be able to see they watched. That's why. Just as people will be looking at your posts but not interacting with it.

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Opal93 · 23/02/2022 21:06

NurseButtercup they are very old exes and friends and I accepted their friend requests presuming it was maybe like an olive branch as I have no reason not to be on good terms with them now, so I don’t mind them watching but just wonder why they chose to follow me but not directly speak or contact me IYSWIM

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Thefaceofboe · 23/02/2022 21:09

I click on stories to get rid of them, not because I’m particularly interested.

ballsdeep · 23/02/2022 21:11

@Windbeneathmybingowings

Oh yeah. I’ve got a hardcore few exes who watch everything and never say a word. Then the lovely ones who are really supportive and send hearts to everything, they are my faves.
Block them then.

I REALLY struggle with people who moan at who looks at their feeds and sends them stuff, especially when its exes. If you don't want them to see or message you, block them.

I suspect people like to show off their 'perfect' Instagram filtered to high heaven life to these people.

ThanksItHasPockets · 23/02/2022 21:13

They auto-play, and sometimes I leave them running when I’ve put my phone down - so my ‘view’ might not mean I’ve seen the story.

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Opal93 · 23/02/2022 21:15

ballsdeep I personally wouldn’t have an issue with exes watching, especially if it was long ago and I’m long over it but I said in PP, I often accepted their friend request thinking of it as a sort of olive branch type of thing, but wonder why they went out of their way to friend me but don’t interact. Same goes for ex friends it’s not necessarily that I’ve got an issue with them seeing anything. Probably just nosiness !

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Tilltheend99 · 23/02/2022 21:24

I tap through every story but without paying any real attention as because I’m a bit ocd about the notifications but if I mute them people will notice I never ‘watch’ their stories. I prefer scrolling pictures but I actually take an interest in photography etc which is why I finally gave in and joined IG. Facebook stories are a bit naff and generally just ads so I try to avoid those.

If there is an answer it’s probably that Tiktok has made people lazy. I personally hate it, it’s like an unfunny version of Vine mixed with a bit of LinkedIn where everyone is just self promoting and trying to flog something. (I appreciate inster is like this too but as I don’t follow that type of account I don’t have to see it)

konasana · 23/02/2022 21:26

Oh no, I do this! But I just view stuff on insta and rarely 'interact' with it, if you see what I mean. Just wouldn't occur to me to click on the like button.

ESGdance · 23/02/2022 21:27

Is it just ex’s and ex-friends who “watch” and don’t “like”? Or do other people do this as well?

ButtercupOfFlorin · 23/02/2022 21:29

I can’t skip people’s stories it just goes through them all

DetailMouse · 23/02/2022 21:31

I don't understand stories. I only ever watch them by accident Grin

SartresSoul · 23/02/2022 21:33

Most people just flick through stories because they’re at the top of the app. They aren’t going on particular people’s pages to look at their story, that’s weird.

DetailMouse · 23/02/2022 21:34

There are quite a few long ago friends on my FB who I don't really feel it's my place to comment on, but I'm interested to see what people are up to. And presumably that why they have me on their list and post this stuff....because they want me to know.

I don't have anyone I don't actually like though. If I was worried about why they might be watching I'd get rid.

Lou98 · 23/02/2022 21:35

Some people (myself included) just click on stories and it goes through them all. I mostly just skip over them but it still shows as watched

PinkPomeranian · 23/02/2022 21:36

I often come back to my phone and find it cycling through stories, so it must seem as though I've watched loads of people's stories when I haven't. I usually scroll when I'm nursing my little one or getting the kids to sleep, so if I do watch stories my phone is often on silent and I tend to flick through quite quickly for stills. I hope I haven't been freaking anyone out!

thetaleunfolds · 23/02/2022 21:39

Some people just don't interact much. I regularly have clients say that they've seen (and loved) loads of what I've posted but I know for a fact that they haven't 'liked' any of it (I only know because I'm paranoid they're not going to be happy with the work I do for them if they don't like my posts haha)

I have friends who just view and scroll. They may love something but feel no need to interact with it in any way

Sunpotter · 23/02/2022 21:41

I think you're assuming too much intent, in both the watching and the not liking.

It essentially forces you to see them all as that's the path of least resistance when you just click at the top, and you can't like them (until today I learned from a PP).

I wouldn't read anything in to it.

stickysellotape · 23/02/2022 21:41

@DetailMouse

I don't understand stories. I only ever watch them by accident Grin
Same! I don’t look at fb stories at all, though a couple of times I’ve accidentally clicked on one and then quickly gone off so haven’t actually looked at them. I don’t use Instagram either.
OfstedOffred · 23/02/2022 21:43

I literally never click on stories since finding out people can see who's viewed. Defeats the point of fbook imho.

There are websites where you can anonymously view insta stories on public profiles though, always amazed how few people realise that. If it ain't private anyone can see it.

Dweetfidilove · 23/02/2022 21:53

Like posts, I only react to things that tickle me in some way.
I also don't wish babies/grandmas/dads etc happy birthday. I may like the picture in acknowledgement of your celebration, but that's it.

PatientlyWaiting21 · 23/02/2022 22:14

I just watch stories, rarely scroll

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