To be miffed at judgemental family/parents?

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I just wish they'd keep their thoughts to themselves....
Apparently:

My husband needs to lose weight
I need to lose weight
My youngest needs to eat different foods
They objected to my chosen religion
They didn't like our wedding venue
They tried to influence their DGC names
My house is too messy
I don't do enough ironing
I don't hoover daily (shock horror)
We should consider them and what they want more
We were wrong to go with Covid guidelines

.....I could go on.

We have kids, we work and and deal with chronic illnesses. Life is an uphill struggle (practically and financially) without having to defend our choices. And, it's not just reserved for us, the main perpetrators who do this most seem to make of hobby of judging other family, my siblings and their own friends.

Just why?!

Please make me feel better and share some of your family's judgements on your adult choices.

Why do you bother spending time with them?

I barely invite my Mum over anymore because she’s such a pain in the arse when she comes. She always finds something to bitch at me for, if she can’t immediately find something she will search for something. She’s been known to open the microwave to check it’s clean before now (who the fuck does this?!). I don’t think she’s happy unless she’s having a go at me for something and I can’t be bothered.

Gosh I had to check my subconscious hadn’t written this. I’ve gone with reducing contact or not responding to obviously rude people.

I'll admit that I'm trying to reduce contact with certain individuals if I feel they're in bitch mode. I've started saying things like: that's not helpful or just a simple 'oh well' and change the subject to something completely off topic.

@SartresSoul

I barely invite my Mum over anymore because she’s such a pain in the arse when she comes. She always finds something to bitch at me for, if she can’t immediately find something she will search for something. She’s been known to open the microwave to check it’s clean before now (who the fuck does this?!). I don’t think she’s happy unless she’s having a go at me for something and I can’t be bothered.

Stick a vibrator in the microwave and when she looks just say - oh dear, silly me, I wondered where that had got to! Might shut her up, even if only for a minute.

Just tell them to mind their own bloody business, I've had this judgy shit for 60 years and will no longer keep quiet and listen to it.
Tell them to stay at home if your lives are so repugnant to them.