My husband bring my mum in law who got Covid live in my house

[Mustsafe2022]

My mother-in-law got Covid recently, and I have a 3-year-old girl who has a weak immune system with eczema. My husband and her mum both knew she got Covid. Without waiting for her recovery, my mother-in-law and husband refused to take the test, move into my house, and live with my 3-year-old girl. But I insisted my mum in law takes another test, and she still tested positive. Without considering my daughter' safety, my husband and my mum law native said: they are all fine; they do not pass the virus to my daughter. My mother-in-law tried to feed my daughter half of the bread she had eaten; she ate my daughter's food in her bowl, tried to feed my daughter the soup she made and hugged her without considering the risk. I am so angry; why my husband and my mother in law can not wait for her total recovery and move to my house? Why don't they have common sense about the risk to my daughter? I am so so so angry. My husband and her mother still do not care, They felt they were innocent and totally blameless.
But every day, I live in a horrible, as I worried my mother in law pass her virus to my daughter as my daughter is very young and she has cough issue. Every day, when I see my mother in law and my. husband, I am soo angry, I cant stand this, I cant stand to put my daughter in such a risky situation.

You say your house and your daughter. Is it your house alone? Does your husband live there or own it as well? Is it your daughter or also his daughter?

Your husband is a disgrace. It's he your DD's father?

I doubt this is the only problem you have with him... I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope your DD is ok.

I and my husband, my daughter live in the house. My mother in law lives in her house. but my husband brings her to move to live with us.
yes, my daughter is his daughter.

Is she moving in with you permanently or is it a temporary measure because your DH thinks she needs caring for while she has covid or something?

How recently is it? Over 10 days?

It will probably be fine.
If your child goes to nursery then she's probably already been exposed to it.

But, why, if your husband shows such blatant disregard for your feelings and your childs health, are you still with him? I wouldn't waste my life with a selfish bastard like that.

If you mean he is your ex...then good, but try nor to stress too much. Covid is rarely severe in children.

No, I wouldn’t be happy with that at all. Your husband seems to take more notice of his mother than you though? Do you jointly own the home? Can you afford to move out with your daughter?

Well I wouldn’t want my mother in law to move in regardless of covid! How long is she staying?

Eczema is an autoimmune condition. It happens because the immune system is responding too strongly rather than being weak. Has she got other health conditions or does she take medicine that suppresses the immune system (beyond just hydrocortisone creams)? Have you been told by your daughter’s doctor that she’s particularly vulnerable to covid? If not, it’s incredibly unlikely that she’ll suffer more than very mild symptoms if/when she catches covid.

I wouldn’t want to live with my MIL either and if my husband decided that is what’s happening without discussing it with me I would be considering a divorce.

Why has MIL moved in?

I'd be very angry too.

When did your MIL test positive for Covid. If it was at least 5 days ago then you and your daughter will most likely be ok. Even if she's still testing positive after day 5 the most contagious time has passed.

I'd be furious though about sharing food with your daughter. That's just horribly unhygienic regardless of the increased Covid risk.

I'd also be angry that your DH hasn't tested for Covid if he's been in contact with his num whilst she was contagious.

To be honest the pair of them sound very inconsiderate of your wishes and really not very sensible or concerned about reducing Covid risk. What is your relationship with them usually like? I get the feeling there are more problems than just your MIL moving in. How long is she staying?

Why has he bought his mother to live with you?

Covid or no covid you should have been asked first

YANBU

But why is she moving in with you?

If there was no other option then she could come to the house but they need to have asked first and she needs to have stayed away from the baby.

Are you saying @Mustsafe2022 that your daughter is immunosuppressed because she has eczema?

I wouldn't agree with her conib to your home if she wasn't in need of care with a positive diagnosis. Does your husband usually not talk things through? Does he believe that you normally overreact?

OP has PM'd me with the reason MIL has moved in (presumably a mistake?). It does put rather a different complexion on things, although OP should still have been consulted.

I wouldnt say its unhygenic to share food (in response to another poster)

But there are clearly reasons why the husband wanted his mother to move in but yes, OP should have been consulted, plans made etc. I think the covid thing is not the main issue here. The daughter will be exposed to it all the time at nursery

Eczema does not put your daughter at risk

I assume there’s a massive back story to you over reacting like this

@DetailMouse

OP has PM'd me with the reason MIL has moved in (presumably a mistake?). It does put rather a different complexion on things, although OP should still have been consulted.

She has PMd me too with a response to my Q

Testing someone for Corona who recently recovered from Corona is pointless. How soon did your MIL move in with you after testing positive? Is your daughter taking something that suppresses her immune system?

I’m guessing there’s a backstory with your H and his mother.

I would be angry too.

Although the risk to your daughter is low, doing this without consulting you or respecting your right to make your own risk assessment is a very shitty thing to do and it soells doom for the marriage. I think you should take your daughter and leave. Yes that will be hard but if you stay you are giving permission to be treated like this permanently. You need to shiw that it will not be tolerated.