To think I cant be the only one who is lonely

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Looking for some advice really on how to cope with feeling so bloody lonely !
My parents have both died in the last 6 months. I was very close to my mum and we spoke every day. It sounds sad but she was my best friend really.
I'm married, although this isnt going very well, not for want of him trying. I just feel so disengaged . Like all he wants to do is watch TV but I long to be able to have a chat without replies being grunted at me.
I've got friends and hobbies but feel like I've bored them to death with chat about missing my parents and my disaster of a marriage, I'm really reluctant to become "that" friend.
My DC is amazing but only a tiny tot so a lot of one sided conversations.
Have any of you found yourself in this sort of predicament and if so how did you deal with it ?

Yep, different circumstances as I split with the kids dad. I ended up putting up with a hideous bloke, who actually irritated the life out of me, just to have at least someone to talk to. Back to square one as I ditched him eventually. Hey ho at least I have the kids, but it's not the same as having a peer to chat with.

You are not alone. I gave up full time work when I had the kids so now only part time and although I am grateful the fact it has allowed me to do school runs etc the trade off is that part time always just kinda makes you feel on the edge of things. You miss everything thing that goes on and couple that with alot of lone working you end up really out of the circle if that makes sense.

My closest friends live miles away. My local friends are at work when I'm.at home and at home when I'm.at work.

I can go days with out seeing another adult.

I text/dm alot but its not the same

I'm sure you are still grieving

I was always borderline depressed with a small child unless I was out and about with other parents. I went to a lot of groups and activities including things like postnatal aquarobics and any gym with a creche, and met up fir park trips and other stuff with the people I met there, plus I volunteered at the parish Council and the local primary school. For myself I went to a monthly book club and did a course about Judaism (dh was Jewish).

That sort of frenetic busyness isn't for everyone and wasn't necessarily especially good for ds, but it did mean I met a lot of great women and a few men who are still my friends, and I felt deeply rooted in my community.

I'd just say that it's common to feel lonely and there are things you can do to make things a bit better.

Thanks for the replies all . I work full time and like I say I have friends and interests. I suppose I could chat to my mum for hours about anything and everything and perhaps that is what I am missing.
It does give me some comfort to know I'm not alone with these feelings though

Cant help other then to say I hear you, I am lonely I really want a boyfriend.

its just me and my son here and we are sick of the sight of each other frankly.

I'm incredibly lonely. I have DH and adult DD but that's it. None of us have any friends and we have no family on either side. It's four years since I had a proper conversation with someone I don't live with (other than HCPs/retail staff etc). That was at a gig, someone me and DH got chatting to. Before that, the last conversation I had was in 2013.

I have no idea what to do about it. I used to have loads of friends when I was younger, but I left my home town and they all melted away, even though I tried to stay in touch.

I'm disabled and can't work. DH has wfh for two years but didn't have friends from work even when he went into the office.

I'd love to have a friend to chat to or a sibling or anyone really. I'm 50 now and I know that won't happen. Me and DH are rock solid and I'm very close to DD. But I envy people who go for evenings out in friendship groups, for example - me and DH were at the pub on Saturday and there were so many groups of people our age.

I'm so sorry for your losses OP

Could you arrange to meet friends to take part in hobbies, so that you're both distracted and don't fall into talking about your parents or relationship? Although I'm sure your good friends aren't judging you for talking about your parents, it's still so fresh.

I'm lonely too but more from lack of friends

It's awful so many people feel this way. I am lucky in lots of ways and seeing what other people have to go through makes me realise this even more.