To want a little more sleep?

[TiredTess]

DH has decided he wants to get up at a regular time everyday and now gets up (since the new year) at 6am everyday (used to get up at 6.30 on weekdays, whenever he liked at weekend, normally between 8 and 10). He goes straight in the shower, which wakes me up and I can’t get back to sleep.

I have tried earplugs (even though I hate them in case I can’t hear the kids) but the shower still wakes me.

On weekdays I would need to get up at 6.30 anyway so not a massive deal but I’m exhausted by the weekend and would love a bit more sleep then. The kids sleep until about 8!

I have spoken to DH about this and asked if at least he could leave showering till later at the weekend, but he says that wakes him up and is an important part of the routine and I should go to bed earlier if I’m tired. I go to bed about 10 normally.

I feel tired that I can’t think straight so I’m probably being really selfish. But AIBU to think he should shower later at least one day on the weekend?

Very selfish. At the least, he ought to compromise. Personally I would say ok, you're getting up at 6am during the week and that's fine, but at the weekend the children and I will sleep in until 8. You could suck up 6am showers, I think?

I would be beyond livid with someone waking me during the weekend, when my children were sleeping peacefully, just to have a shower.

Damn, occasionally I hate MN's lack of an edit function. I mean: You could suck up 6am showers during the week.

I would not be at all pleased. If he won’t leave the shower til later at the weekend, could he compromise and leave it til later one weekend day? Then both of you have it the way you want it on one day.

How selfish and controlling. Why should his needs be prioritised over yours?

Not enough sleep is detrimental to your health, physical and mental. I would expect him to compromise at the weekends and not wake you, showering later or changing his routine so as not to wake you.

You have the right to sleep longer if you wish. Separate bedrooms is the answer.

I also think this is selfish. He could at least agree to one day at the weekend where he doesn’t shower first thing. Not appearing to care about what is important to you as well as his new routine.

@Joystir59

You have the right to sleep longer if you wish. Separate bedrooms is the answer.

That wouldn't work in our house as the layout and size means the shower in the bathroom (not en suite) can be heard in all the upstairs rooms.

He's bring an absolute twat.

My DH gets up at 5am on Saturdays because he has to go to work. He sneaks around the house like a mouse to avoid waking me and the kids. No one should be up at 6am on a weekend, unless they have to be.

I'd start making a new routine yourself that you also want to get up at 6am that involves turning the hot water off.

I’d be fuming (although this would never happen to me as DH hates getting up early even more than I do!)

The week days I could live with, although it would probably annoy me, but the weekend is ridiculously unkind of him. If one of us gets up early then we definitely try and be as quiet as possible as to not wake up anyone else in the house

wow I’d be be so cross!
Hopefully you can
Show him the error of this ways but if not loud white noise can be good for drowning out some things

YANBU