Social life away from DP

[Peppaflavouredbacon]

Morning all, I’m just looking for some opinions here

DP and I have been off and on for 3 years and we have no children. We’re recently reconnecting after a month apart.

Just before this month apart I’d introduced him to my friends which is a new group of friends I met through getting back in touch with a friend from before I met DP. He has got on well with them and considers them his friends also as he doesn’t have many friends that are actually available to socialise with. I see these friends every weekend.

I have expressed a concern that I do not want DP to come with us every week as it’s my time to socialise outside of our relationship and i think it is important that I can do this without him being there every time. He thinks I’m being unreasonable because he says they are his friends too and it’s not fair for me to restrict him coming along every week.

AIBU to say I want to socialise with my friends who knew me first without my DP every week to have my own space? For context I see/stay with him 4/5 nights a week and we are both often ready for some space after this time.

Why is it off again so much? The way I see it, if you’ve broken up several times there’s a reason.

But yes I wouldn’t want my DH with me all the time, and I think it’s important to have space and friendships outside relationships.

It’s off again as we both have things we need to work on. He isn’t the best at understanding and compromising as he’s been taken advantage of in the past. And I have a mental health disorder that makes me act negatively out of my control sometimes but I understand that it doesnt justify toxicity.

He’s the one who has pushed for our own space so much in the past as I can become unhealthily dependant on my partner so it’s frustrating that when I am establishing those boundaries and found a way for me to take that space that it’s not in a way he finds suitable. He says I can have space on other days but socialising is how i decompress.

Honestly I would have it off again. Permanently. Neither of you sound ready to be in this relationship and you sound like you’re making each other unhappy.