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Grief or depression?

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Unsure5679 · 20/02/2022 18:30

I lost my mom at Christmas to cancer, four days after her funeral my dad also got diagnosed with cancer. During this time me and my boyfriend also split up. I was my moms main carer and was there when she died. I genuinely don’t know if I am mostly depressed or whether I’m still grieving?

I struggle to motivate myself to do the things I really enjoy, I love the gym but have lost all enthusiasm for that, I love taking my dog out hiking but I’m struggling to motivate myself for that too. When I do go and do these activities they make me happy but it’s just doing it in the first place. Once I’m finished and get back I feel very sad again. I just want to lie in my bed and sleep the world away. I have bouts of feeling extremely sad and overwhelmed. I’ve only felt suicidal once and that’s when I got drunk at a friends leaving do and wanted to end everything. I didn’t do anything but the thoughts were there. I have now quit drinking and no longer drink as I don’t know what I would do to myself if I was drunk. I just don’t know whether I’m grieving or have mild depression. My anxiety is also awful I constantly feel like everyone around me is either going to die or leave me. I have never experienced these feelings before, I feel completely battered.

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maiafawnly · 20/02/2022 18:35

Im sorry for your loss and i hope your dad is OK.

Grief can cause depression, an emotional trauma triggers the chemical imbalance in your brain. You definitely require emotional support during this time and shouldn't hesitate in making an appointment with a GP, there are things that can help.

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