I have posted about my friend before. But there have been developments.
Basically, she has been having issues with her DH for the past couple of years. They have both done bad things and it's dragged on and on. They are together, not together, living together but not together. Through this I have been supportive, listening to her, messaging her advice and being supportive.
They are still living together but her DH is looking for somewhere else to live and is initiating the split. she met someone else.
This guy is married. She only meets him for dirty weekends in hotels. She didn't even know his last name for a while. He doesn't want his photo taken with her and is currently on holiday with his wife and dcs. He draws her in by doing and saying certain things, buying her very expensive items, expensive meals and hotels. He's loaded. But then makes it clear where she stands, open that he's a serial cheater and she's just a bit on the side. He broke up with the last women because she was too clingy.
She talks like they are in a relationship, dropping his name into every conversation. Saying she's going to split up with him etc. We are early 40s but it's like being 20 again with the dramas. Should I text him, what does this mean? Etc.
I have stepped back from this as she doesn't listen to any advice given despite constantly asking for it. It's hard work as it's all she talks about.
Now she wants our group of friends to meet him! Like they are properly in a relationship. I don't want to. It would look like I support the relationship. Like it's real. He also sounds like an absolute pretentious idiot with no morals. I just feel so sorry for his wife and I don't want to pretend we re all friends.
But, I worry that she seems to be getting closer with the other friend in the group. She seems more open to listening endlessly about it, although she says she's bored of it to me, and they seem to have closer through this. I don't want to be unsupportive and so we drift away further.