Ending friendship and lies

[Shockedmama]

Long story short.
Fell out with a friend cos she’s horrible and a dangerous fibber
She is basically saying something about me and my child that is not true as usual she makes herself out to be the victim.
She falls out with people every week
For similar so I’m not worried about any one actually believing it. Would you retaliate or ignore?

Don't retaliate or confront her it'll just give her more ammunition to use against you and allow her to play the victim. Just step back and don't engage. Don't respond to any contact, block her if you can and don't let her suck you back in.

I confronted an ex friend about her vile behaviour and it blew up in my face. She sent me about 50 messages in 20 minutes playing the victim then raging at me when I refused to back down it was like a tsunami of hatred coming at me. I blocked her and never spoke to her again.

Me? I would drop her like a hot potato.
No real friend would do that.
Absolutely ignore. And move on to better more loyal friends.

Ignore and block.

Ignore

@WickedWitchOfTheEast87

Don't retaliate or confront her it'll just give her more ammunition to use against you and allow her to play the victim. Just step back and don't engage. Don't respond to any contact, block her if you can and don't let her suck you back in.

I confronted an ex friend about her vile behaviour and it blew up in my face. She sent me about 50 messages in 20 minutes playing the victim then raging at me when I refused to back down it was like a tsunami of hatred coming at me. I blocked her and never spoke to her again.

I know this one is the same so I’ve blocked on everything and got my daughter too. I’m just worried for my child as sadly this person has encouraged her daughter to imvolve my daughters school friends. Your so right responding just gives room For more of their venom

@PiperPosey

Me? I would drop her like a hot potato. No real friend would do that. Absolutely ignore. And move on to better more loyal friends.

Absolutely it’s not friendship atall

@Shockedmama I know its hard to do nothing but if you engage it'll only encourage her more. She's doing that to get a reaction from you if you ignore it she loses her power over you. You can't control her reaction but you can control yours her manipulative head games will only work if you engage with her, act completely unfazed by her and what she does let her show herself for the nasty cow she is!

She wants to keep you in your place so she has power and control so don't be surprised if she sends her flying monkeys in to pressure you into resuming the friendship thats another favourite tactic of manipulative people.

My ex friend was a venomous cow and when I blocked her she tried to use my friend as her flying monkey gave them a sob story of how I misunderstood her and she was just upset and lashed out. I told my friend I won't be contacting her and to tell ex friend please leave me alone. She later sent two begging emails which were ignored. Not heard anything from her in a year. I could fill this entire thread up with her vile behaviour its so shocking its unbelievable lol

Tell school about her daughter and friends if they're messaging your daughter. If you do get any communication screen shot it just incase but don't respond.
I had similar with an ex friend. I did always try and hold her at arms length a bit as there were a lot of things she did that I didn't agree with. In the end she got her daughter to keep following my son around at school asking why we didn't go to their house anymore and he couldn't deal with it (autism, when he means leave me alone he means it) and had a meltdown. Teacher spoke to my son, all sorted at school.
That afternoon she kept messaging me that my son HAD to go and apologise to her daughter face to face and if he didn't she was bringing her daughter to my house. she rang me and I said 'wait, I don't want the kids to hear this, I'm going outside', then she put her daughter on the phone! They were 8!
I'd had enough and told the mum it had been dealt with at school but she wouldn't leave it! So I messaged the class teacher clarifying everything had been sorted when dh picked up our son. He was horrified and rang me straight away and said it's not on, and he had to make a note of it On file for safeguarding (I assume because the children were already under SS) and to tell him straight away if she did it again.

A few weeks later her partner turned up at our house covered in blood after she threw a plate at his head! My Dh patched him up but I was so angry. I don't want any drama! Leave me the fuck alone!!! All blocked.

Thanks. The other girl doesn’t go to this school but has an influence over a girl in my daughters class

So it feels like it’s just inescapable

Agree tell the school. Don’t need to make a huge deal out of it but they need to know to make sure the girls aren’t put together.

Then grey rock. I’d also tell your adult friends what’s happened so they understand. No drama just facts. Else she will manipulate them too

Never retaliate! Ignore. Living well is the best revenge...

Ok so we are agreed I just get on with my life and not sweat it
I wasn’t sure whether to talk about it or not I don’t want to look bitter but I know her kind of lies and hate the thoight of that but i kind of think it’s a time will tell the truth thing as I’m not the first won’t be the last

I would talk to the school to let them know there is a potential issue for your dd but do not engage with the woman at alll

@Shockedmama

Ok so we are agreed I just get on with my life and not sweat it I wasn’t sure whether to talk about it or not I don’t want to look bitter but I know her kind of lies and hate the thoight of that but i kind of think it’s a time will tell the truth thing as I’m not the first won’t be the last

You should tell mutual friends when you see them - but just facts don’t try and ‘win’ them to your side. Sometimes people don’t want to hear that someone they know isn’t great and it can take them time to realise for themselves. But it’s only fair you say what you’ve experienced