AIBU to think you don’t get this upset over a forgotten birthday?

[youhadmeatjello]

Have known best friend for 25 years. Have never missed a birthday, always pop something in the post to him if I’m not going to see him.

This year DS was poorly, then we’ve all got Covid and I completely forgot. He was messaging on his birthday and I was messaging back and didn’t acknowledge It because I’d forgotten.
Then he was asking if I’d missed something and I didn’t understand and eventually he said it was his birthday. I apologised immediately and said truthfully I’d lost all sense of time but he said he was a bit offended.

Since then he hasn’t responded to any of my messages and a couple of mutual friends told me he’s really upset about it and has been saying how I never make an effort with him anymore. He finally messaged me back and said he was still hurt and it was just going to “take a bit of time” and was asking how I was going to make it up to him (not in a joking way) I haven’t replied because wtf.

It’s one birthday. One. In 25 years! I wouldn’t mind but he’s forgotten mine in the past and I didn’t kick up a fuss about it.

Tbh it’s made me think a lot less of him and I’m now a bit annoyed myself. But I am feeling very grim, poor DS keeps getting an awful fever and is suffering with Covid, and I think my patience is very limited!

AIBU to think he’s blown this out of proportion?

He sounds like a total PITA.

Yep. Ridiculous.

Just give him some space but don’t give any quarter.

How old is he? Sounds pathetic.... and childish.

What a self indulgent prick. The fact he has forgot your birthday in the past yet thinks he can act like this, especially when you have other stuff going on, says a lot about his character.

What a drama queen. Guessing since you said you'd known each other 25 years he's probably in his thirties. He really needs to grow up.

I believe people like birthdays not because of the birthday wishes, party and presents but because of the opportunity to be annoyed at people forgetting.

Frankly unless you mention your birthday beforehand, why would you expect anyone to remember? The silent types that don’t mention it but are pissy when you forget are the wooorst.

I make a fairly big deal out of my birthday but only because I like a party. If someone then still forgets to say happy birthday on the day who cares. Who even tracks this??

I think he's taking something more than a missed birthday ( missed because you had far more more important things on your mind and to deal with) as an excuse to take it out on you-like he feels shit about himself or is low and is projecting that to onto your friendship.

I hate it when people get like this about friendships and it's awful that they haven't been sympathetic or kind when you needed it. Not a good friend imo.

The only thing I can wonder from his reaction is was it a very significant birthday age that meant a lot to him?! ( if yes he sill needs to grow up)

People like this inevitably forget yoru birthday but you can never forget theirs. Tedious.

Lol, he wants to be your kid. What a twat

I would be upset if after 25years someone forgot my birthday.

However covid gives you massive brain fog and it’s easy to forget what day it is.

I would have properly apologised and said I thought today was X date and your birthday wasn’t for a couple days yet. I will take you out for a meal once I’m over Covid.

If he’s still acting arsey after you’ve apologised then there’s not much you can do.

Do not encourage his drama over nothing by replying.
He needs a bit of time. He can have it.