To think my 15 month old shouldn’t need feeding in the night?

[Calmafterthewind]

I don’t think he’s waking up due to hunger, but once awake a feed helps settle him, although sometimes is refused.

I get that no one knows why he’s waking but are there any ways of helping him sleep through? Bit shattered!

Mine started sleeping through when I stopped feeding them at night.

The big advantage to waking up and yelling for milk and cuddles is then getting the milk and cuddles. Switch to water and cuddles and he may sleep through as it’s not worth making so much of a fuss in the night.

@rainyskylight I was even harsher than that. Instead of mummy and milk they got daddy and a bottle of water. This combination turned out to be not worth waking up for.

No he doesn't need it, just like I don't need chocolate but if someone woke me up at 2am with a bar I'd probably eat it 😂

Agree with PPs. I had to make the active choice to night wean both times, as there is no way DCs would have chosen to do it themselves.
I started with reducing feeds, then cut them all out. They got plenty of cuddles, but no milk. They weren't happy about it, but once they realised the milk would not be putting in an appearance, they miraculously slept better.

Mine’s down to one a night - DH is sent up to any wake up before 3/4am to cuddle which usually settles him. We’ve gone from several to wake ups to usually just the one now; DS won’t settle for anything but milk at that 3/4am slot. I’m sticking with it for now because the molars are coming through and he’s been coldy for ages. Ask me again in a month!

It's biologically normal for a baby this age to wake up a few times a night (or more) and to want milk (need is a big word - do you only do what you need to do?). I get it doesnt help you feeling knackered but rather than trying to change him there may be ways to work around it - co sleeping, daddy taking over for instance.

Lots of 15 month olds wake in the night (is he teething?) and I always found a BF the quickest and easiest way for everyone to get to sleep asap. When DH decided to take DD2 downstairs away from me to try and stop her waking in the night she thought it was brilliant and would stay awake for ages. Babies don't read the baby books.