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Are my boundaries too strict or is this crossing the line?

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Mummummummy9419 · 19/02/2022 06:34

So, I was assigned a group task at a class I take. Our group of 7 have met about 6 times so its a relatively new "friendship" . We all seemed to get on pretty well until we were assigned a pretty stressful task. One group member in particular allocated herself as leader, which is fine and much needed to stay on task as we do chat ALOT. However, over the 3 days the task took to complete she became progressively rude. Dismissing peoples ideas and input, allocating tasks to others but refusing to do the tasks that were allocated to her by the rest of the group. I got the impression she felt asthough she'd done all the work, yet, literally refused to let anyone else contribute where it didnt align with her thinking. At one point she outright "shushed" me mid sentence. Im trying really hard to consider this was a stressful situation and maybe she doesn't cope under pressure? I dont know her well enough to guess if this was a one off display of behaviour due to pressure. Would it be an overreaction to carry this annoyance forward and maybe confront her or should i just forget it ever happened?
Someone please help, im pretty sure ill have to meet with this person again and not sure what to do. Thank you

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JustUseTheDoorSanta · 19/02/2022 10:08

I'd have asked at the time that she should allow contributions from the whole team, it's not worth dealing with after the fact. Just be prepared next time to step up quickly and say "I'll lead this task unless anyone else particularly wants to?". If she puts herself forward "Ah no, you led the last task, and everyone who wants to take a turn leading should get the chance".

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