Recently moved into a flat with a friend, and we’re having a little housewarming. Nothing huge, just some close mates and some drinks. Invited my very best friend, let’s call her Alice, and her long distance partner, she stays with him pretty much all the time so I rarely get to see her anymore so I was super excited. Her partner can’t get much time of work so he is rarely down here to visit her.
Alice asked if she could invite her brother and his partner too. I said that I really wasn’t sure, as we only have a small flat and quite squeezed for numbers. I also don’t know her brother very well and it’s only really a close friends thing, not a huge house party. So I said I’d check with my housemate. I never actually said no.
Alice has now got really arsey, saying that she’s really shocked that I didn’t understand. She said that because she’s never home anymore, her and her partner never get any other time to see her brothers etc. She said she would never have hesitated to say yes it was the other way round. She said it would make it easier for her to kill two birds with one stone and see everyone, and to ease her situation. She’s shocked I “couldn’t say yes for her sake”.
Ive said it’s not a big deal and that they can come but she’s now not replying.
Am I right in thinking it’s not really my problem how often she sees her family? It’s hurting as she’s one of my closest friends and she’s now saying she isn’t coming.