Cut off a not so close friend?

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I had a massive breakup with a very close friend last year. Cut her off totally. We have a mutual friend. The mutual friend did not want to know what happened and I respect that decision. She wants to continue being friends with both of us, but I don’t think I can continue being friends with her, because 1) I am not completely sure if she has taken sides already as normally she would like posts on Fb or give best wishes at birthdays etc, but I have noticed she hasn’t done this since my major breakup with the other friend. 2) I am not that close to her. I would say she is closer to the other friend. 3) i am tired of being friends with people that I am not that close to, even though we have been friends for many years, we are not very close.

AIBU to slowly stop the friendship?

You sound like a bit of a drama queen to me op. Be friends or not your call.

YANBU for reasons 2 and 3
You sound about 10 years old for reason 1

Can’t answer without knowing why you cut off
You could have been entirely unreasonable

Having said that, If you are happy to cut her off for not real reason as far as I can gather - then you’re clearly not that close

Don't dramatically cut her off. Just fade it out if you're not that close and don't give it any headspace.

Either way

You’re a grown asses woman

This all sounds very petty

Your friend will probably be relieved if you “cut her off”

Up to you whether you pursue a friendship or not- if you don’t really value what she brings to your life you could let it drift. How important to your decision is the fall out with the other friend?

If your not that close anyway just slowly back off, text and call less, don't arrange to meet up.

YABU, you don't have to be close to all your friends. I have friends who are like family and a few who I meet up with a couple of times a year for a night out.

Well it's up to you - but yes you're being ridiculous and unreasonable.