Hi, feeling so low and need some advice. 10+ year relationship with DCs. I married my best friend. The stresses of parent life got in the way and we drifted. I was doing doing 99% of childcare & household chores and it became too much as I also work FT. His social life became a priority over family. (He doesn’t agree) But he went out one weekend and stayed out for 3 nights with friends (alcohol and cocaine). No concerns about an OW. On return we he apologised, was ashamed etc but we agreed it best to have some time apart and we have.
Weeks down the line we are still separate, he doesn’t want to separate but also not willing to commit to making necessary changes. I feel very strongly about marriage being for life (partly cultural) but my own values and morals tell me I deserve better that his current ways. (Wasn’t always like this).
He is working, unsociable hours but having bare minimum contact with me and DC (I am shocked at this). Despite Hours he could be doing a lot more.
I feel like I am clinging on to hope that he will commit to change. I’m waiting for him to call the shots but l don’t know if I should see it for what it is and make the decision to end out marriage. I have already attempted to do this but he has convinced me for more time for him to think. He’s had a month though and I’m running out of patience.
I’m working FT, looking after the DC pretty much single handedly and feel like I am in the limbo / the most drawn out break up ever. Can’t sleep or relax and have developed crippling anxiety over the whole thing
Finding it difficult to speak to people in RL