AIBU to expect a Valentine’s card

[OutbackQueen]

I’ve been seeing someone for 4 months, lots of flowers, cards and gifts for the first couple of months or so and TBH, found it a bit over the top. We’re in our 50s BTW. He invited me over on Valentine’s evening for a meal and I gave him a thoughtful card and small gift afterwards (a book I knew he’d like). He looked really uncomfortable and told me he hadn’t got me anything. I do know that Valentine’s is a load of commercial nonsense but AIBU for being quite disappointed, especially as it was our first Valentine’s?

I would've been a bit sad to have gotten gestures on not so special days versus the real thing

Hmm it’s tricky as you’ve only been seeing each other for a short time. My first valentines with my dp was less than a month into dating so we had a chat about what we wanted to do. We decided to go for a meal and got each other funny cards with no lovey dovey stuff as it was so soon. I personally would have had a discussion about the day beforehand with regards to cards/gifts. I’m sorry you’re disappointed thought

I used to enjoy the random flowers from my DH, rather than joining in on valentine's Day. Since widowed and dating I've always discussed what we are going to do for each occasion. It saves any upset. I'd have to ask him why he didn't feel that he wanted to celebrate it, but I like things out in the open.

So you're upset that he buys you gifts and flowers when he wants to but not on the day when it's 'expected'. Yes, sorry, I think that's unreasonable.

The random ones are much more important than the hallmark nonsense. He invited you over snd cooked dinner so he didn't not mark Valentine's Day he just didn't do it in the way you wanted which seems a bit unfair on him to be honest.