Think this is odd or am I being sensitive?

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NC for this.

Had a stereotypical narc mother growing up, everything was my fault, called me all the names under the sun, ‘you’re too sensitive’, ‘you’ve got no friends’ as well as lots of vile name calling that I won’t get into.

Anyway there was an incident that occurred when I was 22, my cousin turned vicious while we were out drinking together and started saying some horrible things about my upcoming wedding.

I said some things back to her in retaliation but she lost her temper gripped my hair and started ragging my head about. She was screaming “get out of the car now, I’m going to smash you up, you c**t” this was 2 weeks before my wedding so no way was I getting into a fight, can you imagine the photos?!?

I held onto the seat in the car. She was ripping my hair out while screaming get out now?!?!

She didn’t manage to get me out - instead the driver of the car drive off and took me home.

I told my mum about this and she said you know what you’re like, you’ve got a tongue that stings like a bee!

To this day me and this cousin haven’t spoken but my mum talks to her and loves all her photos on social media.

To me this is so odd! If anyone did this to my daughter I would be furious! Am I just being sensitive?

No, you're not being sensitive at all. Your mum is abusive and this is just another way in which she abuses you. My parents were very similar and I am non contact with them now. I highly recommend going no contact, it's very freeing!

Your family sound horrible, I wouldn't be friends with any of them on social media and would seriously think about drastically reducing contact in real life.

You poor thing, your mum should be having your back over this, not behaving like a fake friend! If you have the energy I’d make your feelings loud and clear for the last time, and if she can’t understand that, she doesn’t sound worth your time! Xx

You know she is abusive. Go NC.

Why is your mother still in your life, would be my question?

Sorry to hear you went through all of this.
I too had a classic narc mum who did similar to your mum to me growing up. Her favourite people were always the ones who hurt me. Also The things she claimed to hate about me (or made up about me usually) she admired in other people. It’s just another stick narc parents use to beat you with. It’s not normal behaviour by a normal persons standards, but it is very normal for a narc. Distance yourself from both of them.

This reminds me of someone familiar, if it is... your mums a bitch. Go no contact.

There's not a day goes past that I don't think of something mean, petty and hurtful my mother said to me.
You're not alone OP.