I’m not sure if I am unreasonable or not. I’ve been best friends with my friend for 14 years we are both 31. My best friend is a male and is gay (relevant).
The issue is his mum or my friends lack of stand up to his mum and although we have a great time im not sure I can continue.
BF lives with his mum, she has depression and anxiety and doesn’t work. She’s tried to claim PIP and other benefits but they’ve all come back rejected so she relies on my BF wages to live. She doesn’t want to work, and has openly said she wouldn’t manage working.
The issue is she treats my BF more like a husband than a son. If we are out for an hour for coffee or if we go see a film, friend guaranteed to get a call from his mum asking when he is coming home- sometimes after only half hour of being out.
She blackmails him by saying if he leaves she’ll be homeless, have nothing etc. He is the man of the house and does 90% of the jobs. I recently invited my friend to stay at mine for a few days as I live in a nearby city and we both had time off. He’s been here 3 days and she’s called probably on and off every two hours asking if he’s coming home.
He also can’t drive, as can’t afford too and his mums been texting calling me to take him home early. Even calling me “manipulative” for refusing to drive 40 miles in a storm at 11pm!
Friend will absolutely not stand up to his mum, and it’s got to the point where I feel annoyed that we are in our 30’s and basically have to ask his mum for permission to do anything.
I really love my friend but I’m not sure what to do?