Did menopause make everyone avoid you.

[whatisforteamum]

So I've struggled a fair bit for 5 yrs.
Starting with dizzy spells and anxiety so bad I had to stop driving.Then insomnia kicked in.
More recently depression which has taken my previously upbeat positive personality away.
There are lifestyle factors too as I work long hours and we are v short staffed so I'm exhausted so I don't have a worklife balance.
Recently my ds has barely spoken to me having previously been v close.
I've had therapy whiched helped at the time.
Did menopause make your personality change and did others avoid you.?

It made me want to avoid other people. Some people I just lost all patience for for and my life has probably improved because of it.

I had s9me mild depression which improved with hrt but that made me think I wasn’t ‘worthy’ of having some friends.

I was also knackered and didn’t have the energy to deal with much apart from getting through the day and getting home.

So a combination of things. hRt really helped me with the symptoms of anxiety, insomnia and depression.

That has given me the energy to be more myself. And engage more with people I want to.

I had a v good GP which really helped.

Also, all the sympathy for how you are feeling, it’s hard.

No, but I was extremely fortunate and only had to put up with a few hot flushes and some horrible migraines. Maybe you should see your GP and go on HRT?

Are you on HRT? That's the only thing that stopped my anxiety. The menopause nearly killed me because I came off life saving meds. My GP refused me HRT when I medically needed it. They later lost their license, so there was no come back. But yes, my mood swings etc made people avoid me.

No but I was lucky enough to have very mild symptoms.

Have you discussed HRT with your Dr?

Yes I totally understand this.

No and your question assumes everybody has a hard menopause and puts up with it, which isn’t the case. You should go to your GP for help with your symptoms.

I'm almost on maximum dose Hrt
I also work in an all male team so few people to relate to with midlife issues.
Maybe it's my punishing work hrs too.
I was told a new male colleague was calm and professional ( by a man).

Not gone through it yet but I did avoid a menopausal relative who became aggressive & violent. She'd scream at you, go right up to your face and try to punch at you.

It was horrendous and my relationship with her has sadly never recovered because she was out of control. It is a very extreme reaction but sadly what some go through during the change.

Justjamfortea thank you.Yes I have withdrawn quite a bit.I prefer my pets for company.

It sounds like your work/life balance could be a major factor. Is there no way anything can be done about that before you burn yourself out?

Alrightqueenie that sounds dreadful.
I am definitely not that bad.
More of a feeling of invisibility and persistent tiredness.
I do take vit D and b12,exercise and ditched the booze.

Rampantivy I'm looking into that too.
I probably overdid it over Xmas when 2 people had to isolate at the same time.😪