My four children and I (plus a few other family members) all work in the family firm. I am head of the business
All of my children have caused worry at times: broken relationships, poor decision making, Court case for dangerous dog, etc etc
My third child has been in legal trouble for a period of time concerning an inappropriate 'relationship' resulting in a possible Court case. After long discussions (sooo many long discussions...) I have agreed to pay the woman concerned a stack of dosh to call the legal proceedings off.
It broke my heart - both the Court case and the money - but to preserve the reputation of the firm it seems the most suitable choice from a group of very poor options.
He has agreed to cease being part of the firm publicly, though I may find him in-office paperwork etc to do to keep him busy.
The problem is my other children. They are rightly indignant about their brother's stupidity and lack of remorse, but also that I'm spending such a lot of money on him. I probably could give each of them the same amount of money but in total it would mean the firm takes a financial hit.
My husband died last year and I really miss his wise advice.
Am I being unreasonable if I don't give the other children the same as I'm spending on child #3?