To want some romance

[Relationship]

I’m a very romantic person and I guess thoughtful. if I see my partner’s favourite chocolate that’s hard to buy I get it if he’s had a bad day I’ll run him a bath for when he’s home when in town if the bakery has his favourite treat in I’ll offer him tea constantly etc. my partner is very loving he’ll look after me if I’ll but I’m missing the extra love he knows I love flowers but I only get them on Valentine’s Day. I never get small random acts of kindness and I don’t no if I’m expecting to much if he goes to the shop he wouldn’t see some mini eggs and think I’ll get them for her or I’ll run her a bath

YANBU to want it but you need to decide if it’s a deal breaker or not. Have you told him how you feel?

My and my partner does this for each other. Whilst it's a lovely gesture I blame this for us both putting weight on. Sadly not everyone is capable of coming up with good ideas. Others are just lazy. Either way I would talk to him and ask him why he doesn't return the favour. If he isn't willing to budge then perhaps you should stop doing them yourself. At least that way you won't feel like you are owed it in return. More time to yourself to.

It's cheesy but it's all about people's different 'love languages' isn't it?

Have you told him you'd like more small romantic gestures? He might just need a nudge.

If he happily accepts these gestures from you but doesn’t reciprocate, then stop doing them.

It sounds like he just expects them from you now.

I haven't voted, as YANBU to want them, but YABU to expect other people to be like you.
I don't do any of the things you have listed, and nor does dh and we'd probably look at each other like if either of us did.

So we are all different.
If it is important to you, then you need to tell him that, and ask him if he would think about doing things like that as you would really enjoy receiving those gifts or treats.
YWBU to expect someone else to know you would want things like that, as many of us wouldn't.

You’re expecting too much if he’s not that kind of person.
I don’t do that. Neither does DP.
We do surprise each other sometimes but only if we happen to see something the other likes.

You’re not wrong to want it. But it’s not something mandatory, like looking after you when you’re sick.

I wouldn’t want someone to run me a bath because (a) I might not want a bath at that particular time, and (b) I’d rather run my own so it will be exactly as I want it.

I’d be happy if someone bought me my favourite chocolate but not every week, and sometimes I’d like to choose my own. Same goes for bakery treats.

If someone was offering me tea “constantly”, I’d be close to violence.

Flowers on Valentine’s Day and my birthday would be fine with me. I’d happily choose and buy my own if I wanted some, though I wouldn’t turn my nose up at an occasional surprise.

If you were my partner, I’d find the frequent ‘romantic’ behaviours a bit smothering. It is very much the sort of thing that women do in new relationships and then find years down the line that they are being taken for granted. My advice is to back off a bit and don’t mother him.

Your partner could maybe do more. Not sure. Does he never make you a cup of tea or buy you a little treat?

Try telling him. If he doesn't start doing it (and I wouldn't if I were him) accept that you can't change him. That kind of stuff has to be genuine, or it won't be sustained.

I think you're banging your head against a brick wall TBH. I think someone is either like that or they're not. You can keep pestering him but I don't think it will work.

I really don't know how people end up with the expectation that this is how relationships are supposed to be. Focus on yourself and stop thinking about what he might like all the time, that's what he does. He treats you well, he loves you and looks after you, he even buys you flowers on Hallmark holidays. He's a good bloke, don't throw it all away because he doesn't randomly buy you mini eggs at the shop. Just tell him you want mini eggs before he goes.