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Neighbours from hell round 2

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Rolyplumcake9 · 16/02/2022 20:06

I recently moved to a new house after escaping neighbours from hell, they ruined our lives for years in so many ways it was a relief to get a fresh start.
But I’ve once again walked into a home with neighbours from hell. I haven’t stopped crying since I realised they are a carbon copy of our old neighbours.
When I couldn’t take it anymore I reported them to the council noise disturbance team and they received a letter about anti social behaviour. They knocked on my door and denied it then ramped up the noise x100.
I am a nervous wreck I cannot sleep and my children are picking up on this and won’t settle. I am desperate to move house yet again despite spending £6000 decorating this house and building a driveway.
It doesn’t seem that we will be able to repair civil relations with these people and the council have warned me it is very difficult to prove they are doing this maliciously so if they get away with it they can do whatever they like without fear. We are tiptoeing around because if they hear one little noise they begin their ‘big noise’ for the day.

It feels like no one will help me and I have to go through this cycle once again being yet another neighbour punch bag.
I am tempted to knock on their door and confront them but I fear this will make things worse. I’m so scared I don’t know what to do anymore and it doesn’t feel like anyone cares enough to make it stop

OP posts:
Heytheredemons · 17/02/2022 14:12

In the nicest possible way OP I think you are over reacting and exaggerating.
They stay up all night partying, but also go to bed and get up at 4am to carry on partying.
They rent a child to make noise specifically to annoy you.
Your previous neighbours were exceptionally loud and inconsiderate, and the council told you tough but didn't consider it to be to a level that was classed as a nuisance, even though most noise after 11pm is normally dealt wuth quite firmly by councils.
You moved and had exactly the same issues, with again the council telling you to suck it up?
There is a common theme here, and I genuinely believe you are over sentive and prone to exaggeration.

Get some ear plugs and just live your life making normal everyday noise.

Booboobibles · 17/02/2022 15:50

@Heytheredemons

In the nicest possible way OP I think you are over reacting and exaggerating. They stay up all night partying, but also go to bed and get up at 4am to carry on partying. They rent a child to make noise specifically to annoy you. Your previous neighbours were exceptionally loud and inconsiderate, and the council told you tough but didn't consider it to be to a level that was classed as a nuisance, even though most noise after 11pm is normally dealt wuth quite firmly by councils. You moved and had exactly the same issues, with again the council telling you to suck it up? There is a common theme here, and I genuinely believe you are over sentive and prone to exaggeration. Get some ear plugs and just live your life making normal everyday noise.
God this is so irritating and I’ve never even been in this situation. How could it be so inconceivable to you that this could be a real situation?

I hope you don’t have children and invalidate everything they say as you’re doing to the op!

OP you need to move. Is it possible to move to a council house in a better area? I don’t think it will make much difference soundproofing etc….just knowing they’re next door is going to make you anxious. I couldn’t cope with this for one night so you’re doing really well but you’ve got to protect your health and move ASAP.

Fatmax22 · 17/02/2022 16:32

@Heytheredemons

In the nicest possible way OP I think you are over reacting and exaggerating. They stay up all night partying, but also go to bed and get up at 4am to carry on partying. They rent a child to make noise specifically to annoy you. Your previous neighbours were exceptionally loud and inconsiderate, and the council told you tough but didn't consider it to be to a level that was classed as a nuisance, even though most noise after 11pm is normally dealt wuth quite firmly by councils. You moved and had exactly the same issues, with again the council telling you to suck it up? There is a common theme here, and I genuinely believe you are over sentive and prone to exaggeration. Get some ear plugs and just live your life making normal everyday noise.
Nasty post.
WildPoinsettia · 17/02/2022 19:11

OP you need to move. Is it possible to move to a council house in a better area?

Unless things have changed, she'll have to find someone to swap with, which effectively means you have to have something the other person wants. The last one wanted a bigger place, so I'm guessing OP downsized because she wanted new neighbours as her last lot were hell.

Even if OPs old neighbours were worse than this lot and OP was honest about it, the other person might have thought it worth it for a bigger house, or the other person might be just the same so genuinely not bothered about loud neighbours up all night.

There's not enough social housing for all who desperately needs it, never mind those on low wages with no hope of buying who wants it for the cheaper rents and secure tenancies.

The council aren't going to move OP who is adequately housed just because she doesn't like her neighbours and they're inconsiderate. It's either so extremely bad and so prolonged (because social housing is the landlords that take all the people private rentals won't, eviction is a very big deal and absolute last resort) that they've grounds to evict under their own antisocial behaviour/breach of tenancy rules, or it isn't. And then it's upto OP to find a way of living with the situation.

Unless she wants to move out of social housing herself or finds someone to do an exchange with. If she's downsized to a 2bed house she could downsize again to a flat to give someone incentive to swap, but there's no guarantee the next lot of neighbours won't be similar and in a flat you're surrounded by more of them increasing the risk.

OP if you're unable or unwilling to private rent, have you been to the doctor's about your mental health? Because after the last lot of neighbours you probably have become over sensitive to noise/aggression/drunkenness etc making things seem worse for you than it would otherwise be. If you can't change the situation you might have to change the way you cope with it.

Looking at it from your new neighbours perspective, although they're inconsiderate, they're trying to live their lives the way they want. When you moved in were you doing lots of DIY? If they sleep during the day they might have decided you're the inconsiderate one. They'd be being unreasonable, but that won't stop them having their opinion. I say this because you've mentioned a £6k renovation and decoration bill, plus them reacting to the slightest noise from you during the day. So perhaps they're as fed up with you as you are with them?

Is there any chance of clearing the air, calling a truce and starting over again with them? I know you shouldn't have to and it's not fair, but if you can't move home your best bet is probably to find some way of getting along with them, so you don't have to live in constant fear of retailiation. You're clearly more mousey than they are so starting a war isn't necessarily in your best interests.

Rolyplumcake9 · 17/02/2022 20:22

Thanks for replies I am ignoring rude comments because I know what I am and have experienced are real and very difficult situations I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.
The cost of the driveway was for building, permission and dropped kerb which my landlord gave permission for and I signed to agree we would pay. I had to get loans for this as I am on a low income and have no savings, it will take me years to pay back as mentioned further up. So I don’t have a deposit or guarantor for a private rental. We’re on a dangerous road and it’s far safer to have a driveway than park on the road so it was my number one priority. I wasn’t aware I had nightmare neighbours to begin with, possibly from being so busy I just didn’t pick up on it for a few weeks.
That has been the only diy as the decorating was just painting and carpets, minimal noise for several hours a day during the afternoon.
I am looking to move house asap as I feel that’s the only option but I am exhausted and stressed and it could take many months to find another property. It took almost a year to find this house and it was a stressful 5 way swap, the other families are in their element at their new houses as shown on the whatsapp group, I am the unlucky one.

OP posts:
RedCandyApple · 17/02/2022 21:16

Just make sure you’re honest with whoever you swap with about the neighbours being a nightmare yes? Like you wanted to be made aware and felt you was deceived.

Rolyplumcake9 · 17/02/2022 22:25

Of course I’d be honest, I don’t think I was deceived by the previous family as they are very similar (had a lot of parties according to my other next door neighbour) and are likely annoying their new neighbours so I’m not angry she didn’t mention it if she sees that as normal daily life.

OP posts:
Bran21 · 17/02/2022 22:32

We had really noisy neighbours ( music and shouting all hours etc) we reported them to council who gave us sound equipment to record them. They eventually got moved after 2years and we had quiet neighbours move in. If we had time again we would have just moved. It was time wasted. Time we could have enjoyed living where we were living.

Maves · 19/02/2022 00:02

So you exchanged? Did you tell the person you exchanged with his bad yours were? Mmmm so both of you were as bad as each other then only she got a bigger house.

DdraigGoch · 19/02/2022 03:46

@Thebestwaytoscareatory

Councils are worse than useless when it comes to things like this, an utter waste of space. The people working there are literally stealing a wage for doing nothing. It would be very simple to sort stuff like this out in a matter of hours but they just don't care.

Councils and housing associations have a legal obligation to all their tenants and can't just evict them/make them homeless. I'm interested to hear your solution to this issue that would solve everything in a matter of hours?

Establishing accommodation in the old whaling station on South Georgia ought to be far enough.
user1471538283 · 19/02/2022 10:58

I get it OP. I moved to get away from noisy and aggressive neighbors. I juggled my life through the start of the pandemic to cope with them but it wasnt enough. My anxiety was through the roof and I still havent recovered.

Our council were useless. Most people believe that everyone is decent but they are not. Some people enjoy this and get off on it. I know my lot who made a ridiculous amount of loud noise were really sensitive if anyone made any noise at all like mowing the lawn at noon on a saturday. I also know that they put their kids and other kids up to it to upset me.

I'm still furious that authorities side with these noisy fuckers.

I'm now surrounded by more people but it's much quieter. Because they are decent people.

I think you need to move before it completely ruins your health.

RedCandyApple · 19/02/2022 11:17

@Maves

So you exchanged? Did you tell the person you exchanged with his bad yours were? Mmmm so both of you were as bad as each other then only she got a bigger house.
Apparently she did, and will tell anyone new she swaps with, yeh right literally no one would swap then 🤣 “oh by the way my neighbours are the absolute neighbours from hell!” So they both did it to each other.
Daffodil123456 · 19/02/2022 14:26

How did you lose?

Daffodil123456 · 19/02/2022 14:38

I have sympathy with OP

You need to go to war, log everything, record everything, contact HA, Council , Police and any other agency that can take action.

It sad that society is now full of these types of people and they make decent peoples lives a misery

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