Not inviting anyone to our wedding

[DonutEvenAsk]

My family have been horrible about my fiancé due to a 10 year age gap (I'm younger). We have 2 DCs and a beautiful life together but he's still not accepted.

Booked to get married this year abroad and just finalised today - going to invite both sets of parents and no one else. The thought of drama makes me want to vomit.

I have lots of siblings and so I know the backlash will be horrible. To the extent that it's dampening my excitement already.

YABU - just invite them and see what happens on the day

YANBU - it's your big day and you can do as you please

Yanbu. Have the day exactly how youd like it. Congrats!

Do it! Bugger the lot of them.

I would just go elope and not invite anyone. Unless you have friends that could possibly come?

Why even invite the parents? Unless they have been decent about him

Just get married in a registry office and tell everyone afterwards

Find 2 random people as witnesses

@Blinkingheckythump

Why even invite the parents? Unless they have been decent about him

They've been polite enough. But never to stand in his corner. But I couldn't imagine my wedding day without him walking me down the aisle and I'm scared I would regret it, truthfully.

Go and do it alone.
Chuck it in the fuck it bucket otherwise.

We did this because family full of bloody arseholes. Told some friends the week before.
Was fabulous.
And no drama afterwards, I had zero tolerance to any shite or dramas, zero.
I shut that shit down immediately.

@00100001

Find 2 random people as witnesses

We need to legally get married in the UK beforehand - this is exactly what we are doing! 😆 But we always wanted to get married abroad.

YANBU

Your day. Do what you want

Are you sure the 10 year age gap is the only reason? It seems a bit weird, especially as you have 2 kids together.

@Diditopknot

Go and do it alone. Chuck it in the fuck it bucket otherwise.

We did this because family full of bloody arseholes. Told some friends the week before.
Was fabulous.
And no drama afterwards, I had zero tolerance to any shite or dramas, zero.
I shut that shit down immediately.

I love this!!

@DiddyHeck

Are you sure the 10 year age gap is the only reason? It seems a bit weird, especially as you have 2 kids together.

Yes. And I agree!

YANBU,

To hell with them its yours and your partners' day anyway and that is all that counts.

I am sure you will have a wonderful time.

I'd do it without them. It doesn't sound like they're particularly nice about him either. You will just cause so much drama, it won't be worth it. Take it from someone who thought should do the right thing/suck it up on my wedding to make relatives happy - it wasn't worth it. The day itself was gorgeous, but the anxiety in the run up to it was horrendous and it destroyed it for me. But the time we had to get married, I just wanted to get it over with!!! I couldn't even look at my wedding photos and I could barely remember the wedding day. If I had my time again, I'd elope.