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To think 7 is worse than terrible twos?!

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anticlock · 16/02/2022 16:00

Anyone out there with a 7 year old that is driving them up the wall?
She's been pretty good up until now, easy baby, lovely toddler, great through infant school.
Is it hormones or what?
She shouts, screams, is unreasonable. I have to ask her 10 times to do something and then find her wandering the house aimlessly instead of doing what I've asked her to do.
She does annoying things like winds the car window down on the motorway and won't put it back up till she's been asked numerous times and is generally defiant!
She's ratty when I wake her up at 7.30am even after 11 hours sleep.
And lately she just makes noise for no reason whatsoever. So she'll walk around singing "me me me me me me" or other made up words just so she can enjoy the sound of her own voice!
She's bossy with her little brother, constantly whinges about her friends at school, and just wants to go on her Nintendo switch 24 hours a day (she's only allowed this at the weekend)
Please reassure me that other people have 7 year olds that are driving them mad??!!

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Poppasocks · 16/02/2022 16:05

Solidarity hugs OP! My 7 year old is the same. I think it's linked to a hormone surge at this age? Not helpful I know!

Stickypace · 16/02/2022 16:09

My DD is 6 and is a nightmare so I feel for you.

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anticlock · 16/02/2022 16:09

It's awful isn't it.
I honestly dread waking her up in the morning, as within 60 seconds she'll either be shouting or whinging about something.

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SilverGlassHare · 16/02/2022 16:10

My seven year old is like that but the baby years were so so so much worse that everything since is like water off a duck’s back!

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 16/02/2022 16:11

Yes.

Just....yes.

Hugs!

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anticlock · 16/02/2022 16:11

My DD was honestly a dream baby. She never cried, slept through at a few months old. I guess that's one positive, she loves her sleep still!
7 is hhhaaarrrddd work though.

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LunaLoveFood · 16/02/2022 16:11

It doesn't get better at 8

BeautyGoesToBenidorm · 16/02/2022 16:13

Oh Christ yes. My 7yo, to put it delicately, is an arsehole 😅 He's stubborn, stroppy, has one volume (bellowing), absolutely no self-control and ZERO sense of danger.

He's lucky he's still cute 🙄

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anticlock · 16/02/2022 16:13

What are peoples tips for dealing with the attitude and not listening?
I need some hints I think.
She gets sent to her room to read or draw when she's really irritating me, but if she carries on like she is then she'll be up there for 6 hours a day!!!

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ufucoffee · 16/02/2022 16:17

No. There is no reason why it should be. I don't know any seven year old children who behave in that way. Sorry OP.

Stickypace · 16/02/2022 16:18

Of course 7 year olds play up!

NameChange74567 · 16/02/2022 16:19

My 7yo dd is exactly the same, she is driving me mad!

WhenIsItTooLate · 16/02/2022 16:21

I think there’s some sort of weirdness that happens around that age! Previously lovely, chilled DD1 is now 9.5 and has been the same since about the same age. I hate to tell you this but it’s actually stepped up a notch recently. She can be an absolute joy but this is somewhat outweighed by the bossiness, negativity, constant whinging, dramatic wailing and door slamming every time something happens that she doesn’t like…I’ve had to go back to treating her like a toddler (deep breath, count to 3, simple clear sentences) but mostly I just let her crack on. She’s harder work than both my 3yo and my 5yo at the minute! I look upon it as good practise for the teenage years

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anticlock · 16/02/2022 16:23

I'm glad the majority are agreeing with me that they can be absolute pains in the arse.

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LadyCleathStuart · 16/02/2022 16:23

My DS was fine at 7 and still is now at 8. Yeah he often doesn't listen first time but he never has. He talks non stop but that is nothing new. He takes forever to get ready for school so I start the process earlier.

He isn't nice to his little sister but never has been and she isn't nice to him either so it's swings and roundabouts.

DD is a totally different story, she is only 5 and already a stroppy madam. She threw a hissy the other day because I got a new dress. Dreading hormones kicking in for her.

whatkatydid2013 · 16/02/2022 16:26

They have their moments at all ages. My 7 year old is definitely grumpier than she was a couple of years back but her little sister is too. I’ve no doubt an element of it is all the weird upheaval from the pandemic vs their actual ages.

HelloFrostyMorning · 16/02/2022 16:26

Hmm, my two were amazing at 7 (they are 14 months apart.) AND at age 2. Lovely at age 3 too.

However, they were fucking demons at 4-5.

And again, they were Angels at 13, 14, 15, whilst other kids were little monsters at that age. (Lovely kids they were in their early to mid teens.)

Turned into demons (again) at 16, til they were 18/19.

Good luck @anticlock They will get past this phase soon!

user1478172746 · 16/02/2022 16:37

Yess! Such a disapointment that it gets harder, not easier 😃 Newborn period is the sweetest point, after that...

MichaelAndEagle · 16/02/2022 16:40

My DS was really tricky at about aged 8, and DD is now at that age, and is also hard work. At least this time I'm not so worried and pretty sure it will pass.
DS is now 14 and much more chilled and generally nice.

FailureToLurk · 16/02/2022 16:40

I'm somewhat ashamed to admit this but.

I don't like my 7 year old at all, I can't stand him. He's annoying, defiant, and just generally unlikable.

I love him, I'd never hurt him or neglect him. But given the choice to spend time with him or trap my tits in a vice, I'd choose the latter.

snowone · 16/02/2022 16:41

I hear you loud and clear! 7 has been challenging so far, dread to think what 17 will be like!! 😱😱

dannydyerismydad · 16/02/2022 17:26

Y2 and Y6 are the worst! Top of their key stage. Think they know it all (whilst probably also being terrified of the change to come and being bottom of the heap again).

All the stamping and shouting.

PedroPonyismyspiritanimal · 16/02/2022 17:26

Google adrenarche! It's the earliest stage of puberty when adrenal glands kick in around aged 7. I read about it on here and it explained so much about my daughter's behaviour, which can be similar to yours OP, including the repeating nonsense words over and over.

twodayistheday · 16/02/2022 17:27

@FailureToLurk

I'm somewhat ashamed to admit this but.

I don't like my 7 year old at all, I can't stand him. He's annoying, defiant, and just generally unlikable.

I love him, I'd never hurt him or neglect him. But given the choice to spend time with him or trap my tits in a vice, I'd choose the latter.

😂 I know miss them when they are at school, the second they are back they start with the whining and you think oh gosh.

Although I have a 2 year and 5 year old, so if 7 is worse I'm in big trouble.

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 16/02/2022 17:30

It was 6 for us. At one point DH and I were in the verge of cutting a dream holiday short and flying home because we convinced ourselves he needed a child psychologist as a matter of urgency he was a bloody horror. As soon as he turned 7 it was like a switch had flipped back.

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