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To get upset/insecure that my child more clingy to my SIL

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Busybutlovingmomma · 15/02/2022 22:53

My 21 months old seems to prefer his aunt (Dad's sister). Me and my husband are both working, and remain busy almost whole day. I am not a fun momma for him, due to limited time even though I work from home. Now his grandparents and aunt have come to stay by for long. And his aunt is not working. They play with him whole day, and my SIL is fun for him. He doesn't want to be away from her. Doesn't look for me. Infact ignored me and made his aunt join us for a car ride. Didn't leave the house with just parents and wanted his aunt to come along. Now this is getting too much for me as me and my SIL don't share a great relationship in the past. Today while we were out on family dinner for our anniversary, she even said that my son doesn't prefer momma but her, and doesn't leave the house without her, and is one day going to be her biggest fan. Me and my SIL don't share a great relationship, and I don't want many of her traits to be passed on to my child. Please help what is the best advice. Am I being unreasonable. She loves my son a lot for sure, she herself is 41 yo unmarried, like 5 years elder to me.

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SnakeLinguine · 15/02/2022 23:02

Toddlers love anyone who plays with them, and your SIL is on holiday mode, not trying to juggle work and family life. However, surely you’re not trying to work FT from home with no childcare?

Why would your SIL ‘pass on traits’ to your child? How long is she staying?

GrazingSheep · 15/02/2022 23:04

What is your child doing all day while you both work ?

Busybutlovingmomma · 15/02/2022 23:10

Me and my husband both work from home currently and we take turns whole day to care for our son. His grandparents and sil visit very frequently, like every 2 months for more than a month. First 9 months we all were staying together.

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Busybutlovingmomma · 15/02/2022 23:13

When it is just us, we attend him or play with him at home turn by turn, and his Dad tries to take him to park in between.

Now he is playing whole day with grandparents and more than that my SIL. He is naturally spending more time with them, and is very happy to explore all that fun unlike we are able to do.

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