To think people are talking bad of me because I left him?

[Lolabray]

I ended my relationship recently due to ongoing issues and not feeling happy with my now ex.

I did (probably still have a little love) love him but do not respect him now as I don’t know who he is anymore.

We have mutual friends on Facebook and locally

I have literally left him, closed the door quickly, he has children and I do, I have not been able to say bye to them, or explain.

It is a loss for me but I know staying in something where someone was lying and messing me around is not what I deserve as I deserve better..

However I know people will be looking down on me for leaving him as the poor tale will be painted and I’ll probably be made out to be a right bitch. Also the fact that I have had to bolt that door shut and have no contact makes me look even worse.

I guess there is some element of embarrassment and upset involved in my emotions.

Sorry to rant and thanks for listening

Feeling lost lonely and confused now

No one knows your story but you.
True friends will be there. The others you don't need.
It's your life. Nothing to do with anyone else.

It doesn't matter what they think.

Thanks xxx

You just have to not give a shit what others think. I know that easier said that done but it can be done. You know what’s right for you and your life. Other people’s shitty opinions can bring you zero joy.

Don’t know what age you are? Most people 30+ think there are shades of grey/2 sides to every story in any relationship, and also aren’t as invested as you think! Do you and stop worrying. You clearly had good reasons and that is absolutely fine.

There are 3 sides to every story, your side, their side and the truth. Unfortunately people seem to believe the first version they hear then judge the other person based on that.

At the end of the day, leaving your relationship, which sounds like was the right thing to have done, sometimes means you also lose some external relationships too.

Really it shouldn't make any difference to other peoples lives but people love a gossip and if he has got there first then I would draw a line in the sand and move on from these people. Don't give it any headspace.

@Lolabray

I read on here many years ago and it's so true and a good reminder that there never has to be a reason other than your unhappy to leave a relationship and you certainly don't want to spend any time worrying what others think.

Being unhappy is reason enough.
Life is too short to stay unhappy in a relationship.

If it didn't work for you then move on. Nothing wrong with that op

Who cares what 'people' think. Your real friends will stand by you, and you are right to leave if you were treated badly. Shame more don't do that.

Most sensible people know that you never really know what goes on behind closed doors / within a relationship and will keep their beaks out.