DD (23) got involved in her first serious relationship just over 2 years ago. A few months into the relationship, her boyfriend was involved in an incident which is now is now going to Court. From what I know of him and the incident, I have no doubt that he is telling the truth and I’m baffled that it’s gone this far quite honestly. He basically got dragged into something by trying to stop it. I’m certainly not naive and don’t believe everything I’m told. DD has seen the evidence, she wasn’t there but was aware of the lead up to it and has no doubt of his innocence.
Obviously I can’t give details but its a very serious offence carrying a long sentence.
The case is due to be heard later this year and in the meantime, boyfriend has been dealing with very bad news about a family member, and trying to support them too, which has also greatly affected him. He’s also having to work all the hours god sends to pay for his solicitor. DD ditching him would tip him over the edge.
DD has recently got great job, in an industry where it would not go down well if it came out her bf was on trial or potentially in prison!
I like her bf, he’s had some really tough breaks but works so hard and keeps on going, always ready to help out, and I feel desperately sorry for him, this is just so unfair but I think DD should end it and walk away. If he’s convicted it will have a massive affect on their lives together, him getting another job, travelling abroad. getting a mortgage etc and of course he could be banged up for years before that.
She loves him and is still planning to move in with him but I think this is too much for her to deal with and the effects will be too great for her future if he’s convicted.
She is very angry with me for asking her to consider it. Obviously it’s her decision but I don’t think she’s looking ahead.
On side of me want to support them both and encourage her to stand by him but the other is just shouting WTAF is she doing, get out now!
AIBU? WWYD?