WispaGoldsshouldcomeinmultipac ·
15/02/2022 14:58
So, context for you. My daughter (2) doesn't sleep very much. We have plenty of disturbed nights. I'm not here for sleep advice.
My mother and friend met at a toddler group that I couldn't attend because we'd had a bad night with my daughter and I let her sleep the extra half hour and didn't rush her to get her out the door.
The friend messaged last night to say that my mother had told her about an occasion where I'd let my daughter nap from 5pm-8pm (she'd not been well, she'd been up most of the night before) what would my friend do if it were her little boy.
She explained to me that she'd told my mother that she would never have let her son do that, that her son goes to bed a lot earlier than my daughter and agreed with my mother that my loose routine was too loose because she does it differently.
I replied to her explaining that I didn't understand why she felt the need to tell me that she was gossiping about my parenting style with my mother, that now I felt I had no safe space to offload about how tired I am because I felt as if the friend and my mother were ganging up on me. However, the friend has said that by telling her that she was in the wrong to do this - I don't even understand why she needed to tell me about I it I've ruined the friendship and become mean and nasty.
Am I the ass hole here? Cos it feels like I'm back at school...