Should I go?
So its my friends party soon. And I am in two minds if I should go.
Bit of background
Basically we've been friends for about 5 years. Enjoyed nights out, girls only and as couples with another couple. I've hosted parties at my house they've always come her and her fella. When covid hit a lot of our plans got cancelled I had arranged a weekend away and paid for her for her 40th birthday and a surprise party I got the decorations etc.
When her fella was a d**k she would come to my house etc and we would sort it out
So all in all a great friendship
Last year I became pregnant we still continued to go out/ socialise I hosted some weekends as I didn't want to obviously go on nights out. But everything was fine. My 30th birthday sep last year was 3 week before my Due Date she sent a card in post. Didn't come to see me We live 5 mins away. (She hasn't seen my baby yet). Even though she drives past my house twice a week to meet our other friend. I have been on one night out with her since I had baby for a mutual friends birthday. She started saying things like I hope you're back on contraception etc..which I found strange! she said " sorry I haven't come to see you & baby but my OH has been working late and I feel it is a joint thing when visiting a baby".. which is weird because she is MY friend not her fella I dont even really care if he comes. Anyway fast forward to NYE she invites our other friend to her gathering with her 2 kids. But not mine (I have 11 yo as well as a baby) I couldn't get a sitter so I didnt go. Shes messaged me since for the odd favour here and there. She visits our other friend every week for catch up and brew. So why not me? And now she wants me to go her party.. it feels like she's dropped me since having a baby but wants me when she wants me