WWYD maybe pregnant - unplanned

[whenexpectingtheunexpected]

Hi All,

Sorry is this is long, I want to get all info down and have 2 questions need help with.

I'm pretty accurate tracking my period and have only ever been 2 days out of expected start date - I'm 4 days late but had light bleed last night and nothing since.

I'm late-20s and my boyfriend is early-30s, we have been together 6 months, don't live together but both see a future together and have had non-serious discussions of marriage, children, etc so on the same page.

I'm not on birth control and we use condoms but a couple weeks ago it came off during. Neither of us realised. From what I've read it's still too early to take a pregnancy test but I will be at weekend if period hasn't started.

My 2 questions are:
If I am pregnant, how do I tell my boyfriend? This isn't planned but I don't think would be the end of the world.

I'm currently interviewing for other jobs, if I'm pregnant what should I do? Stay in my current role for maternity pay and knowing I have something to go back to or if I get a job offer tell them I'm pregnant (if I am) and see what they decide? I'm in England.

Thanks in advance for any advice

Mess up*

Being ill or stressed hasn't affected my period before, and not the jab as was boosted in December then had normal, expected period in January.

Also not been ill recently.

Tbh I would be surprised if it comes back positive, but wise to test.

It sounds like you are not pregnant but to answer

How to tell him? face to face and in private. Don't msg or call him at work. Be prepared for any reaction. He may be elated and propose or he may be devastated and want you to get a termination and all inbewtween.

What to do about work depends on whether he will help support you and stay together, how much savings you have etc. Can you afford to do it without mat pay?

Whether it all works out for the best is anyone's guess. There are lots of stories of this happening and couples getting married and having a lovely life together but also plenty of threads on here by women who are stuck co parenting with useless exboyfriends who let them and their children down. Ultimately you don't really know each other that well so it could swing either way.

I had about 4 negative tests before I had a positive with my now son

Dunno why ppl are giving stupid advice to the op. I think it's perfectly reasonable to want to plan for a what if scenario. I'm the same and I would stay at the current job if positive. Also just tell bf. Sit him down and tell him frankly. No point beating around the bush. Sounds like he would be cool with it

Have you had covid jab? That made me late and heavy.

@worriedmummyofboys

I had about 4 negative tests before I had a positive with my now son

Dunno why ppl are giving stupid advice to the op. I think it's perfectly reasonable to want to plan for a what if scenario. I'm the same and I would stay at the current job if positive. Also just tell bf. Sit him down and tell him frankly. No point beating around the bush. Sounds like he would be cool with it

At four days late, you would expect a pregnancy test to give a true negative or positive. There’s no need to sit the boyfriend down and tell him anything. She isn’t pregnant.

Have you been feeling tired? Your iron levels could be low and that can affect your periods too

I also had my covid booster in December, normal period in January and then the next I was 4 days late!! Could be coincidence but I am never a day late, let alone 4 days. I think the vaccinations are messing with a lot of women’s periods so it could well be that.