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Original poster

To ask my husband to stop doing this?

33 replies

Wetspringdays · 15/02/2022 07:50

He keeps popping DS dummy in his mouth then putting it in DS mouth.

I have no idea why it turns my stomach as DS does more disgusting things but it does … AIBU to ask him to stop?

OP posts:
Lazypuppy · 15/02/2022 07:51

Lots of parents do it as a way of cleaning the dummy before giving it to baby if it fell on floor or something

Original poster
Wetspringdays · 15/02/2022 07:52

Yeah I have seen this but we do have sterilising wipes and a tap … and anyway he isn’t cleaning it. I really don’t know why he does it. He just says DS finds it funny.

OP posts:
T00Ts · 15/02/2022 07:53

If he’s doing without there being a need to ‘clean’ it each time, that would be very odd. And rank.

T00Ts · 15/02/2022 07:53

How old is your son?

DownUdderer · 15/02/2022 07:55

This is good for the babies immune system. Don't sterilize everything all the time.

Original poster
Wetspringdays · 15/02/2022 07:56

14 months.

We don’t sterilise everything. I just don’t like this.

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SpaceyCake · 15/02/2022 07:58

It's not really good as it can introduce new bacteria into the baby's mouth which can cause caries (tooth decay/cavities) in the future. It's not the end of the world or anything too serious, but in my home country where they're well into dental health they always advise parents against it. I did pop my baby's dummy in my mouth a few times when he was little, but then I read about the bacteria and stopped. My husband thought I was hysterical. Grin

mum11970 · 15/02/2022 08:01

Can’t see the issue, as you say your ds will be putting much worse things in his mouth. Things are way over sanitised these days, which isn’t helping build up a proper immune system and then people wonder why their kids pick up every bug going once they go to nursery or school. Are you revolted by kissing your husband, as there’s much more saliva passed between the two of you?

Mnusernc · 15/02/2022 08:04

It can give your baby gum disease

blackdumpling · 15/02/2022 08:05

I don’t have kids
But something about this seems gross
Sure kids should develop healthy immune systems
It doesn’t mean saliva of your parents is required to develop a healthy immune system
Using your mouth to clean something which has fallen on the floor sounds disgusting
IMO

labyrinthlaziness · 15/02/2022 08:05

It is OK to ask your DH to stop doing this - why have you not asked him to stop?

It is a bit weird and yes it can lead to gum disease.

olympicsrock · 15/02/2022 08:07

Not good - spread the bacteria that cause dental caries

Fimofriend · 15/02/2022 08:10

It's NOT good for the baby's immune system. This is how the caries bacteria get introduced into baby's mouth. We are not born with that present in our systems.

BananaBender · 15/02/2022 08:11

Gross. In my country parents are advised not to put the dummy in their own mouth and then put it into the baby's mouth because it passes on tooth decay bacteria, plus anything else like cold sores or thrush.

I'm sure he can find something else to do to make the baby laugh.

KittyKattyFosterMummy · 15/02/2022 08:11

Parents have been sucking their children's dummies since dummies were invented haven't they? Won't the sterilising wipes make the dummy taste horrid? Surely the chemicals in that are worse for your baby than a bit of saliva? Or do you have to use a wipe and then rinse it too? Doesn't seem very environmentally friendly. Have you never had a spoonful of what your husband is having? Or had a good old kiss? Same principal. I honestly wouldn't worry for a moment.

mum11970 · 15/02/2022 08:15

@Fimofriend

It's NOT good for the baby's immune system. This is how the caries bacteria get introduced into baby's mouth. We are not born with that present in our systems.
The baby is 14 months old and probably puts much worse in their mouth. Sterilising everything is not good for a child’s immune system.
BOOTS52 · 15/02/2022 08:17

I think it is gross also when you see a parent do this and surely he can have a spare one clean and kept for when the baby needs it. Just tell him to stop doing it or try to wean the little one off the dummy. My son loved his dummy but never put it in my mouth and then into his.

girlmom21 · 15/02/2022 08:18

I don't personally see the issue

WTF475878237NC · 15/02/2022 08:20

I think it's disgusting and unnecessary.

SpaceyCake · 15/02/2022 08:24

@bananabender We may be from the same country. Grin Does yours offer a million midwife appointments and doctors examinations during pregnancy too? Grin

BananaBender · 15/02/2022 08:32

@SpaceyCake Maybe. Depends on if you go public, shared care or private. I did shared care so mostly saw my GP and only a handful of hospital appointments. Australian here.

lavender2022 · 15/02/2022 08:34

As long as he doesn't smoke or drink then I don't really see the issue with this. However, at 14 months I would be trying to wean the baby off of the dummy anyway so maybe that's something to consider?

TheApexOfMyLife · 15/02/2022 08:36

Well I certainly wouldnt use a sterilising wipe to clean it tbh…

The child is 14 months and ha s bene putting things in his mouth for a long time now. So 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

collieresponder88 · 15/02/2022 08:43

@Mnusernc

It can give your baby gum disease
Hmm
collieresponder88 · 15/02/2022 08:44

Maybe get him his own one