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To ask someone to be a friend with benefits

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isla19 · 14/02/2022 21:46

Hi all.
I'm 28 and a single mother of 2 little boys. I've been single since my youngest was born, 4 years now. I was with their dad from a young age and he is the only person I have slept with. I really want a sex life again and to experience different things. I'm not overly fussed on having a serious relationship but if I meet the right person - great! Have been chatting to a new guy and have arranged to meet for a drink next week. He's a bit older than me, 40, and also has 2 DC. Seems pretty cool and laid back and is nice looking and very complimentary towards me. What I'm basically trying to ask is how do I ask a man if he is up for a FWB situation Blush would he be offended?!

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isla19 · 14/02/2022 22:44

Anyone? Grin

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DenholmElliot · 14/02/2022 22:57

I'm sure he'd happily have sex with you, just ask him.

RedCandyApple · 14/02/2022 22:58

Isn’t FWB actually meant to be with someone you actually have a friendship with I thought that was the point of them anyway? How can a stranger be a FWB if you have never actually met them (by reading it seems you’ve not met?) isn’t that just a FB if you don’t actually have a friendship, I don’t think he will be offended though will probably be delighted about a younger woman offering no strings sex! Would be better to meet him first and see how things go before asking to be FWB.

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isla19 · 14/02/2022 23:16

Thanks for the replies. We haven't met yet, just have mutual friends etc. Will see how the date goes! Smile

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Earlydancing · 14/02/2022 23:28

I don't think meeting up with a stranger and asking them if they'd sleep with you is what FWB is really. I think it's more that you're friends with someone that you like but have no romantic interest in, and you end up having sex with them occasionally. But above all you're good friends. What you're proposing is something entirely different. But yeah, I'm sure he'd hop into bed with you.

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isla19 · 14/02/2022 23:40

Thanks for the response. Yes, FWB is the wrong term. Just a guy I'm meeting that I want to ask if he will shag me basically 🤣

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EBearhug · 14/02/2022 23:53

If he doesn't work, there are plenty of hook-ups available on Tinder...

notanothertakeaway · 15/02/2022 09:05

I only got into a FWB scenario once and it ruined the friendship and felt a bit sleazy

Better to aim higher and hold out for someone who is relationship potential

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